There is a strategy I have adopted in my life. It’s a subtle reminder that everything- the good and bad, pleasure and pain, approval and disapproval, achievements and mistakes, fame and shame they all come and go. Everything has a beginning and an ending and that’s the way it’s supposed to be.
Every experience you have ever had in your life is over. Every thought you’ve ever hard started and finished. Every emotion and mood you’ve experienced has been replaced by another. You’ve been happy, sad, jealous, depressed, angry, in love, shamed, proud, and every other conceivable human feeling. Where did all that go? The answer is no one ever really knows. All we know is that, eventually, everything disappears into nothingness. Welcoming this truth into your life is the beginning of a liberating adventure.
Our disappointment comes about in essentially two ways. When we are experiencing pleasure we want it to last forever. It never does. Or, when we’re experiencing pain, we want it to go away-Now. It usually doesn’t. Unhappiness is the result of struggling against the natural flow of experience.
It’s enormously helpful to experience the awareness that life is just one thing after another. One moment is followed by another. When something is happening that we enjoy, know that while it’s wonderful to experience the happiness it brings, it will eventually be replaced by something else, a different type of moment. If that’s okay with you, you’ll feel peace even when the moment changes. And if you’re experiencing some type of pain or displeasure, know that this too will pass. Keeping this awareness close to your heart is a wonderful way to maintain your pleasure, even in the face of adversity. It’s not always easy, but it is usually helpful.