Intimidation – The Fear Of People

Breaking free from a. “man fearing” spirit. Learning to live for the Lord because you love Him.

If imagination is the biggest nation in the world today, then intimidation is the second largest. The dictionary defines intimidation as influence or force by fear, verbal or non- verbal, direct or implied. Too many people allow others to control and manipulate them into doing and saying things that they would not normally do. Look at Peter. In a vision the Lord told him not to treat anyone as “unclean” (Act 10). God told him to go to Cornelius’s house and not to worry about what others may say. But in Galatians 2, Pail wrote that Peter was at Antioch, eating and fellowshipping with Gentile believers until people from “church headquarters” came down to see what was going on. When Peter heard they were coming he “separated himself “ from the Gentiles believers. Paul said, in today’s terms, that he “got in his face.” Why? Because Peter had fallen victim to the fear of intimidation.

We all have different opinions and beliefs about many different things. We live our lives according to the moral compass put in us by God called a conscience. The compass points us in the right direction, unless it is influenced by an outside force. The same is true in our lives, no matter how long we’ve been a Christian. There is however a difference in not wanting to offend a “weaker brother “ by not in-gauging in what we would normally do without a problem to our own spirit ie drinking coffee would offered them, so in there presents a changing of who and what we are in our core beliefs to please those who only want to change us to conform to their own convictions. Philippians 2:13 says “work our your own salvation with fear and trembling.” There is only one way to be saved, but once that salvation is come into your life, it’s now your responsible to “work it out.” We all have our own personal convictions. Somethings I’ve done or haven’t done were because of a “man fearing spirit “ or if you will intimidation, intimidation leads to hypocrisy. The living and doing of one thing for certain people, and doing the opposite for others.

God hates hypocrisy! The greater sources of intimidation come from the world and its ungodly system. Such as advertisement making people feel that they will be accepted if they don’t wear this, or eat that, or have this body shape, or drive these cars. Socially they must be in the “in crowd.”

Spiritually the word tells us “Everyone goes to heaven, all religions lead to God which intimidates Christians into not standing up for what it right and for truth. All virtue have been cast off by the world we live in, but one- tolerance. Today if we as believers speak out in the free market place of ideas conserving any issue we are the ones branded as “closed-minded.” We are told that Spiritual matters should stay in the four walks of the church. The world has pushed us in a corner through fear. It’s time to stand up. To stand up for truth, righteousness, and live a life that is free from intimidation. Are you living two lives? One you show on Sunday and the other on Monday through Saturday. Do you feel the need to impress people you don’t like, with money you don’t have? Too many people are bound with a “man-fearing spirit, and it’s time to be set free in Jesus!

How To Master Your Emotions

We’ve all had situations where our emotions have gotten the best of us, whether we were sitting in traffic, dealing with a difficult co-worker and arguing with someone. Often it’s because we went to far down the emotional train to realize what we said. We all say thing we don’t mean and that we later regret, and that we were on a emotional roller coaster of feelings. If you haven’t learned way to master your emotions it happens more often than not.

Emotions are complex states involving both physical and psychological changes that influence our mood and behavior. An emotion is sparked by a particular event or object, which causes a physiological response in our body – both happiness and sadness can makes us cry, fear, and makes or heart race, anger makes us feel hot. Then we change our behavior in accordance with the emotion. We might hug someone, run away or yell and fight. The behavior stage is the point at which emotional mastery plays a role. When you know how to master your emotions, you can cat h them before they affect your behavior.

Beyond this definition there are many theories of what causes emotion and why we respond to certain experiences the way we do. But, one things for sure, human emotion is a powerful force to be reckoned with.

Concerning emotional mastering the concept wasn’t introducted until the 1960’s. Researchers learned that emotions are influenced by outer as well as inner stimuli and demonstrates that thoughts, peer influence and circumstance shape emotions.

So, what is Emotional Mastery Important?

Feelings and emotional mastery play a role in our subjective experience of the world – that is the way we interpret the things that happen to us, as opposed to objective experience, which is the facts of what actually happened. This is why psychologists recognize that the answer to “What is an emotion?” Includes the ability to influence the way we think and act.

We cannot change our objective experience. Things happen every day that are out of our control. But we can change our subjective experience; the way we assign these things . That is emotional mastery, and it has a massive impact on our interpersonal relationships, self-worth, communication skills, and overall fulfillment in life.

Emotions Unify us across cultural lines.

There are six basic emotions in all cultures: happiness, sadness, fear, anger, surprise and disgust. We all experience these feelings, although there are cultural differences regarding what’s an appropriate display of emotion.

Emotions Govern Our Sense Of Well-Being

Since emotions are a product of our experiences and how we perceive those experiences, we can cultivate positive emotions by focusing on them. There are 10 “power emotions” that cultivate emotional mastery by creating a base of positive effect. When we incorporate even small doses of gratitude, passion, love, hunger, curiosity, confidence, flexibility, cheerfulness, vitality and a sense of contribution, we set the stage for feeling good about ourselves.

Emotional Mastery Supports Healthy Relationships

When we are able to demonstrate emotions that are appropriate to the situation, we’re able to nurture our relationships. When we don’t know how to master our emotions, the opposite occurs: We might fly of the handle at minor annoyances or react with anger when sadness is a more appropriate response. Our emotional response affects those around us, which shapes our relationships for better or worse.

The best time to handle an emotion is when we first begin to feel and experience it fully. That way it won’t keep popping up time after time. By following six steps we can learn to master our emotions and take better care of our life.

Identify What You’re Really Feeling

The first in learning how to master your emotions is by identifying what your feelings are. To take that step toward emotional mastery, ask yourself:

  • What am I feeling right now?
  • A. I really feeling…?
  • Is it something else?

Acknowledge And Appreciate Your Emotions, Knowing They Support You

Emotional mastery does not mean shutting down or denying your feelings. Instead, learning how to master your emotions means appreciating them as part of yourself.

  • You never want to make your emotions wrong
  • The idea that anything you feel is “wrong, is a great way to destroy honest communication with yourself and others.

Get Curious About The Message This Emotion Suggest To You

Emotional mastery means approaching your feeling with a sense of curiosity. Your feelings will teach you a lot about yourself if you let them. Getting curious can help you:

  • Interrupt your current emotional pattern
  • Solve the challenge
  • Prevent the same problem from occurring in the future

Get Confident

The quickest and most powerful route to emotional mastery over any feeling is to remember a time when you felt a similar emotion and handle it successfully. Since you managed the emotion in the past, surely you can handle it today.

Get Certain You Can Handle This Not Only Today, But Also In The Future.

To master your emotions, build confidence by rehearsing handling situations where this emotion might come up in the future. See, hear, and feel yourself handling the situation. This is the equivalent of lifting emotional weights, so you’ll build the muscle you need to handle your feelings successfully.

Get Excited And Take Action

Now that you have learned how to master your emotions, it’s time to get excited about the fact that you can:

  • Easily handle this emotion
  • Take some action right away
  • Prove that you’ve handled it

Emotional mastery is one of the most powerful skills you can learn to create which is authentic and fulfilling life.

Don’t Beat Yourself Up

When you have hurt someone you might be inclined to beat yourself up, agonize, and assume that the situation is irreparable. However hurting someone should not depress you. Instead, use it as an opportunity to transcend your past and come out stronger. (Obviously you should always try not to hurt other people but in the inevitably human event that you do, there is potential for transformation.) When you have hurt someone and you need to make amends: recognize your weaknesses and failings, assume responsibility, and rectify your errors.

Here are some specific ways to go about that:

Be Honest With Yourself

Do you blame the people you hurt and see yourself as the victim of the situation, justifying your hurting another person? Consider that your personal narrative is subjective, and therefore possibly biased toward your own interests. Depending on your subjective views can do more harm than good for yourself and others. Hurting someone is bad, but denying your culpability is even worse, because that closes the door to repair and healing.

What story are you telling yourself? Can you separate yourself from your personal narrative and see the situation from the other’s point of view – and even from a bird’s eye view? What’s the bigger picture? Where did you fail in the situation? What should you have done differently?

Assume Responsibility

What does it mean to assume responsibility when yo need to make amends? It means to act promptly: Do not wait. Immediately apologize to the person you hurt and find ways to correct the wrong done. Reaching out to the person you hurt to repair the rift and create harmony cannot wait until you reach a state of “readiness.” You may not be able to make amends perfectly, but it’s the effort that counts. Every effort bears fruit.

Rectify Your Errors

You, as all people, have been blessed with free will, and you always have the power to release the positive spark within yourself. Apologizing in words is not enough – you must act. When you refrain from doing more harm to others, you actively negate the harm you have done before. When you face a similar situation where you are tempted to hurt someone, you must summon all your strength not to succumb to temptation. Furthermore: rectifying an error means not just correction, but growth; using the opportunity to build an even stronger relationship.

Persecution And Suffering For Christ

No one wants to suffer, but in a fallen world it is unavoidable. Whether physical pain or mental anguish, suffering is part of the human condition for everyone. However, that is not the type of suffering I want to explore here. Instead, I want to look at the different kindle suffering because for our faith in and faithfulness in Christ.

Why take up an unpleasant subject ? Because if we understand the inevitability, purpose, and fruit of suffering for Christ – and the resources He gives us to face it – we will be better able to endure when it comes. Forewarned is for armed.

Those who suffer the same things from the same people for the same Person can scarcely not love each other.

C. S. Lewis

This is obvious to believers living under oppressive regimes. However, some today say, “Yes, but we aren’t facing that kind of persecution today.” It is true that for many centuries, followers of Jesus in Europe and America haven’t faced culture-wide persecution because of their faith in Christ. But that era has almost disappeared and a new era is upon us

Exactly what it will be like is not yet clear, but it seems unlikely that it will be favorable to those who follow Jesus Signs of opposition are already apparent.

John Scott has pointed out the “persecution is simply a clash between two irreconcilable value-systems.” That clash is what we are seeing now, and it is ultimately between those who believe, trust, and love the God of the Bible and those who do not. The changes afoot today represent a sea-change from the past, the wind is no longer on our back but it our face. This is creating a cultural climate in the West in which perseof Jesus’s followers, simply for their allegiance to Him, is no longer unthinkable, whether in family, community, or the workplace. This is confusing to some and frightening to others.

One of the greatest paradoxes in Christian history is that the church is most pure in times of cultural hostility. When things are easy and good, that is when the church goes astray. When Christianity seems identical with the culture and even when the church seems to be enjoying its greatest earthly success, then it is weakest. Conversely, when the church encounters hardship, persecution, and suffering… then it is closest to it’s crucified Lord, then there are fewer hypocrites and nominal believers among its members, and then the faith of Christians burns most intensely.

Gene Edward Veith

Let’s look at the teaching of Jesus, Paul, and Peter about persecution and suffering, seeking to learn valuable lessons along the way.

Jesus’s Teaching And Example

What That used to say to us about persecution, and what resources does He provide in such times? We should begin by noting that Jesus was Steeped in Scripture and knew all about the persecution and suffering of the prophet and other godly people in the Bible, people like Daniel (Daniel 6) and his three friends and others. He knew that such evil ultimately resulted grows out of the spiritual darkness, blindness, error, and sin that dominates the hearts of fallen people and causes them to resist truth and righteousness.

He also knew that as God’s Suffering Servant (Isaiah 53). He would experience the full assault of men and devils against His earthly ministry and would ultimately die by crucifixion. He understood as well the opposition that His followers would face from their families, communities, the world, and the devil, and He sought to prepare them. Jesus frequently warned His followers that they would face persecution and suffering.

The first instance comes at the beginning of His ministry, when Jesus taught the Sermon on the Mount. This teaching was and still is basic training about life in God’s kingdom and how to be a disciple of Jesus. He began with the Beatitudes, which is a profile of a disciples Christian and includes a readiness to suffer.

Blessed are those who have been persecuted for righteousness’ sake, or theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are you when people reproach you, persecute you, and say all kinds of evil against you falsely for my sake. Rejoice, and be exceedingly glad, for great is your reward in heaven. For that is how they persecuted the prophet who were before you (Matthew 5:10-12

How did Jesus expect his disciples to react under persecution? Be glad and rejoice! We are not to retaliate like an unbeliever, nor like a child nor lick our wounds in self-pity like a dog nor just grin and Bear like I a Stoic, still less pretend we enjoy it like a masochist. What then? We are to rejoice as a Christian should and even “ leap for joy.”

Matthew 5:12; Luke 6:23

Jesus also said, “Love your enemies and pray for also persecute you” (Matthew 5:44). Clearly, persecution was a real possibility for anyone who followed Jesus, and He taught them the vital lesson that Joy, love, and forgiveness were the way to respond . This is a fundamental lesson for us today.

Later in His ministry Jesus taught more broadly about what was required to follow Him, and suffering looms large there, too.

And calling to the crowd to Him with His disciple, He said to them, “ if anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, for whoever loses his life for my sake and the gospel will save it. For what does a man profit to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul? For what can a man give in return for his soul? For whoever is ashamed of me and of my words in his adulterous and sinful generation, of him will be the Son of Man also be ashamed when it comes in the glory of his Father with the holy angels.

Mark 8:34-38

The first condition, Jesus gives if you deny oneself. This means that would be disciples must say a radical to know your self-centered life and center there lives on Christ. Doing this prepares away for the second condition, to take up the cross, the dreaded Roman instrument of execution. This made a willingness to die for Jesus is faithfulness requires it. These two conditions clear the way to actually follow Jesus -Hid teaching and example in daily life.

Jesus was a suffering Servant on His way to Jerusalem and the cross. Those who would beHis followers might experience the same fate and need to take that into account.

Jesus’s final warnings about persecution and suffering came at the end of His earthly ministry. In the Upper Room, He told His disciples, “Remember the word that I said to you: A servant is not greater than his master.” If they persecute me, they will also persecute you” (John 15:20) Then He elaborated

I have said all these things to you to keep you from falling away. They will put you out of the synagogues (churches). Indeed, the hour is coming when whoever kills you with think he is offering service to God. And they will do these things because they have known not the Father, nor me. But I have said these things to you, that when their hour comes you may remember that I told them to you.

John 16:1-4).

This warning was specifically intended to keep His followers from losing their faith in the fires of persecution that they would soon encounter. The lesson remains valuable today: we are likely to experience persecution at some point because of our allegiance to Christ and the gospel and should prepare for it. Being reminded of the possibility helps us to get ready.

Soon after Jesus ascended to heaven, persecution broke out against the church in Jerusalem because of their preaching about Him and His resurrection (Acts 7). Following that, a great persecution was directed against the church in Jerusalem, and everyone except the apostles left for other places, preaching the gospel as they went (Acts 8:1). Herod then killed James, the brother of John, and arrested Peter with the intention of executing him as well (Acts 12:1-3). These are just a few examples of life in the early days of the Spirit-filled church presented in Acts