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Mind Over Matter: The Most Important Factor Of Humanity

“Thinking: The Talking Of The Soul With Itself.” Plato

Humans are cognitive beings. Everything we do, and everything we feel originates in our mind as thoughts. The thoughts for perspectives and influence our decisions. Decisions then lead us to or prevent us from action. The pattern of thoughts we choose to entertain and focus on, the shape and quality of our lives. Given the power and importance of the mind, why are preventable mental health measures not a major point of focus in culture? Throughout our lifetimes, we experience an infinite amount of physical and emotional states including love, loss, pain, pleasure, addiction, depression, violence, insecurity, etc. Based on these experiences, we learn he to suppress, cope, express, and/or share our emotions with others the best way we know how. Developing the skill set to learn how to focus and be aware of how we process or interpret information and respond accordingly, empowers us to have control over our emotional states instead of being led by them. Better communication within the self will improve how we communicate with each other.

Mental and emotional health through self-awareness are essential to living the most successful, fulfilling life. American culture had taken strides to promote physical health with the hope of preventing life threatening diseases and conditions. The same preventive measures need to be taken with mental health.

There are empowering materials that promote mental and emotional awareness, usually labeled “self-help,” that have stereotypically categorized those who see knowledge in this area as “weak” individuals.

Organized Religions is another Avenue with empowering information available. Because you basically have a do’s and don’t list you have to live by. And you live those do’s and dont’s to a tee. Some religions won’t allow you do drink coffee or carbonated drinks. But, not necessarily for those who choose to be nondenominational.

I know a family that their religion doesn’t approve of drinking coffee and refuse to help them in anyway because of this.

Mental health should take precedence over the physical. Until one’s head is in the right place, the body never can be.

A healthy self-esteem requires self- awareness. Self-awareness helps us understand the meanings we associate to actions and events in the world.

Example: Two of my cousin as well as I were diagnosed with Bladder Cancer. We were all told the prognosis was death. One cousin passed away, the other so sure he was going to die soon. So his is living a life of depression and physical pain. While I chose to not listen to the Physician and chose that and I wasn’t going to die. I kept the faith and asked for prayer when I needed it, and got right with God. That was 10 ten years ago. I have had many cancer checks and there is no sign I’ve ever had cancer.

I keep telling my mind that the doctor was wrong. That I was not ready to die. I was still needed. And God is the Greatest Physician there is. There were only one of two reasons why I was healed, Mind over matter or God healed me! I think it was a little of both.

People seem to just want a band-aid on everything, every illness. But we have to find the root cause. In order to find it. We also accept things people or doctors say as truth, but it reality the truth in the way we live and the creator of the Universe.

Don’t Be Afraid Of Yourself.

It happens all too often, people are afraid of themselves or being themselves. I’ve seen too many people put on false faces because they were afraid of either being judged or treated differently based on who they may really be.

Sadly, I lived this way for far too long. Because of my experiences through-out my life. I was afraid of showing my true self.

I am not one to judge or treat anyone for being somebody they are not, I’ve been through hell and back in my life. I’ve been that person and I know how it feels. I’ve tried to be someone else too. The thing is, being yourself is only natural and trying to be anything else isn’t. I believe people can change. I changed so I feel other people can do it too, if they try. People can change for a variety of reasons. However the message I want to convey is not to be afraid of just being yourself.

Something to accept, regardless of whoever you are, is that at some point throughout your life you will get judged. It might be family or even a complete stranger, but know that literally everyone else around you also get judged by someone.

I won’t deny just last week I judged a person for her beliefs, and what she was wearing. We get judged by who our friends are, and a variety of other things. I immediately realize when I judge someone because, I’m sure people judge me the same way.

Being yourself isn’t always going to be easy. I get that. Sometimes being yourself makes it harder to either make friends or get to know other people. But you won’t truly find happiness and peace until you stop caring about what others think. Stop worrying about what others think about you, their opinion does not matter. Start being the you that is you.

Thinking Out Of The Box. What Does That Mean?

Thinking outside of the box is supposed to mean confronting problems in atypical ways, thinking creatively and freely, and encouraging frequent challenges to the status quo. Outside-the-box thinking , in other words is constructive nonconformity behavior. This is a behavior that deviated from organizational norms or common expectations, to the benefit of the organization.

Out of the box behavior is rarer than many think.

While the urge to get outside the box is strong there are people who are pushing people into conformity.

Here’s how we can nurture the ability to look at things differently and encourage constructive nonconformity:

1. Question the status quo regularly. Make nonconformity the expected conversation. Ask Why? How might we? And what if? Put apparent conflicting issues side by side and begin to solve for them.

How To Identify Your Gift

A Gift Is Not A Talent.

Everyone has a gift, but not every person recognizes what his or her gift is. Being able to identifying is the key to fulfilling the unique purpose of your life.

However, don’t confuse a gift with talent. Anyone can learn a talent, but a gift is something you’re born with.

Think of it this way: can any person take singing lessons to improve their voice? Yes, they can develop a singing talent . But can anyone sing like Whitney Houston? No. Whitney’s voice was her gift, and no one else no matter how many lessons they take and how dedicated they are to furthering their talent Will sing quite like her.

If you’re not sure what your gift is, ask yourself these three questions:

1. What can I do that I’m best at, with little effort on my part?

2. What is the one thing that other people associate with me?

3. I’ve listened to others connect this gift with me, so how have I used it?

Write down your answers and think about what you find. When you identify your gift, you now have the opportunity to live your richest life. The success you experience will be connected to that gift, but you have to figure out the most valuable way to use it.

Find Yourself And Reflect.

If your gift is writing how can you use it in the most valuable way? Your way might not be in writing fiction it could be motivational writing instead. Or, if your gift is listening, think of all the ways you could use it to benefit the most people.

To live your most fulfilling life, identify your gift by asking yourself the questions above.

What did you find?

When I began to become curious about my gift. I would share my life experiences with various people and many would say I was called to be a bridge for others.

A bridge is inherently symbolic of common and union, whether it be between Heaven and earth or two distant realms. For this reason it can be seen as the connection between God and Man. It may be the passage to reality, or merely a symbol for travel and crossing.

I have been invited to speak in a tent revival in September to talk about my experiences and what brought me to where I am today. Maybe be a bridge for someone who needs it.

When You’ve Done All You Can Do

Would you like to be able to deal with life’s ups and down with strength and grace?

Becoming mentally and emotionally strong isn’t something that happens overnight.

When it seems that we’ve done all that we can do, know the we haven’t. We have to stay encouraged. We have to have hope. Hope is the emotional state which promotes the believe in a positive outcome.

Without hope, we have hopelessness, and hopelessness is the epitome of destruction. Hope is having no expectation of good or success; the despair you feel when you have abandoned hope of comfort or success. Fear is the root of hopelessness. Napoleon Hill stated the “Fear is a habit; so is self-pity, defeat, anxiety, despair, hopelessness and resignation. You can eliminate all of these negative habits with two simple resolves: I can and I will!!!

We can agree that it is much easier to surrender that to fight.

However, when it comes to survival or continuing to live in spite or difficult circumstances, it is about survival of the fittest. In the midst of disaster we are taught that survival skill are crucial. Although, generally referring to physical disasters, this can be conveyed in the emotional aspects of disaster as well.

So, what do you do when you’ve done all you can do?

Here are some ways:

Stay Hopeful

Life is full of challenges but hope is key to enduring and conquering them.

Make A Conscious Choice To Be Happy

Happiness is a choice, and your perception is your reality. Finding the good in all situations will help overcoming negative defeating distorted beliefs.

Pick Your Battles

Work on the things you have control over, instead of overwhelming yourself with things you cannot change. Let go….Let God!

Reflect, Relax And Release

Surrendering it to God means we don’t get to hang on to it. It’s good to reflect and learn from your mistakes and undesirable situations, but don’t get hung up on it. Let it go and relax. Release the pressure of the situation and move forward.

Take Time For Yourself

Do something that eases your mind; something enjoyable that can make you feel refreshed and alive. Take a hot bath, do some crafts or hobbies, get out and enjoy your surroundings, or take in a movie or go to dinner with friends or family. Just do something.

Live, Laugh, And Love

No this is not just a saying. It can be quite helpful when faced with challenges. Make a choice to live! Laugh, as research has proven that laughter releases hormones that reduce stress, provides a physical and emotional release, and even provides a good workout for your heart. Make a decision to love yourself. (flaws and all)

Get In Touch With Your Spirituality

Spirituality can provide us with meaning, a sense of vitality or aliveness and a sense of closeness to Jesus and helps us to see the big picture. Pray for clarity and understanding. Read your Bible for daily encouragement. These things will help you stay focused on God.

Take Action

Make an action plan that consist of goals and objective, and revisit it regularly. Every day life challenges can get you off track, but an action plan will keep you focused. Revisiting the plan on a regular basis will provide some insight on your accomplishment and provide continued guidance, even during stressful situations.

Even though life throws us curve-balls, and doesn’t always go as we plan or would like, there is something we can do about it. Don’t surrender to challenges. Welcome them and look at then as an opportunity to grow and advance. Know that you have NEVER done all that you can do!

Try each of these tips, take control over you situations, and live a more Strategic, desirable, and encouraging life.

The Enemy Only Attacks What Is Valuable

Have you ever thought about how many things the enemy did even early in your life to try and stop you from having a

I sure have, I almost died from malnutrition at the age of four. I spent 3 months it the hospital. I had a hot deep fryer pour on top on me I has six years old. I remember my mother coming to my bed at night holding a pillow over my head until I started choking. As an adult I almost overdosed on alcohol and drugs. I cut myself to try and transfer my pain from remembering my childhood. I injected a entire bottle of insulin. I tried to take pills to try and kill myself. I went to the hospital the Dr’s saying I was clinically dead and woke up 3 days later in Intensive care. I can go on but you get the picture.

I know the Satan started my storm. I was under demonic oppression. When God found me at my lowest point that’s when things started to change. I began to know I was valuable.

You are on Satan’s hit list from the day you were born. There were things in your family line that were happening before you were born that were designed to keep you from being close to God. We must be important, because in spite of all of the storms that had your name on them, in spite of every attack, look at praising God that you are alive and believing for a brighter day. Look at how you made it. You must be important. You survived.

How do I know your important, not because of the car you drive or the house you live in, not because of your friends. I know your important because of your storms. The size of your storm let’s me know the importance of your assignment. Satan doesn’t start a storm for somebody he’s not threatens by. If your going through a storm, there’s something so much bigger on the other side.

The Satan has been huffing and puffing trying to blow your life out. Your storm is a sign that Grace is on the way.

When Satan whispers in your ear “You’re not strong enough to withstand the storm.” Today I whispered in Satan’s ear “I am the Storm.” And God is on my side.

Deuteronomy 28:7 says “The Lord will conquer your enemies when they attack you. They will attack you from one direction m but they will scatter from you in seven.”