I’ve yet to meet an perfections whose life was filled with inner peace. The need for perfection and the desire for inner tranquility conflict with each other. Whenever we are attached to having something a certain way, better than it already is we are almost engaged in a losing battle.
Rather than being content and grateful for what we have, we are focused on what’s wrong with something and our need to fix it. When we are zeroed in on what’s wrong it says we are dissatisfied, discontent.
Whether it’s related to ourselves or a disorganized closet, a scratch on our car, a few pounds we would like to lose-or someone else’s imperfections- the way some else behaves, or lives their life. The very act focusing on imperfection pulls us away from our goals of being kind and gentle.
This has nothing to do with ceasing todo your very best but with being overly attached and focused on what’s wrong with your life. It’s about realizing that there’s always a better way to do something, this doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy and appreciate, the way things already are.
The solution may be to catch yourself when you fall into your habit of insisting that things should be other than they are. Remind your self that life is okay the way it is right now. That in the absence of your judgement, everything would’ve fine.
This was a hard lesson for me to learn. It took me awhile to realize that everything would turn out fine without me poking my nose into everything that was going on. One day I thought to myself I’m stopping what I’m doing. I’m not going to sweat it. It gave me so much peace when I learned to simply walk away and let things be.
As you begin to eliminate your need for perfection in all areas of your life, you’ll begin to discover the perfection in life itself.
The only thing we can be perfect at is love.
There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfect in love.1 John 4: 18