You have at your disposal a foolproof guidance system to navigate you through life. This system, which consists solely of you own feelings, let’s you know whether your off track and headed toward unhappiness and conflict-or on track, headed toward peace of mind. Your feel act like a barometer letting you know what your internal weather is like.
When your not caught up in your thinking, taking things too seriously, your feelings will generally be positive they will affirming that you are using your thinking to your advantage. No mental adjustments need to be made.
When your experience of life is other than pleasant-when you’re feeling angry, resentful, depressed, stressed out, frustrated and so forth, your warning system of feelings kicks in like a red flag to remind you that you are off track, that it’s time to ease up with your thinking, you’ve lost prospective. Mental adjustment does not need to be made. You can think negative feelings in the same way you think of the warning lights on the dashboard of your car. When flashing, they let you know that it’s time to ease up.
Contrary to popular belief, negative feelings don’t need to be studied or analyzed. When you analyze your negative feelings, you’ll usually end up with more of them to contend with.
The next time your feeling bad, rather than getting stuck in analyze paralysis. wondering why you feel the way you do see if instead you can use your feelings to guide you back in the direction toward serenity. Don’t pretend that the negative feelings don’t exist, but try to recognize that the reason your feeling sad, angry, stressed, or whatever it is that you are taking life to seriously- you are sweating the small stuff. Instead of rolling up your sleeves and fighting life back off, take a few deep breaths, and relax. Remember, life isn’t an emergency unless you make it so.