We all experience some trauma’s in our lives. From abuse to not being treated fairly. But we also have a choice whether we will stay wounded by them or become wise, and whether we will be a victim of what happened to us or a victor.
Someone who has chosen to have a victim mentality feels like they have no control over their circumstances. I lived this way for nearly 20 years, feeling like the world was out to get me, that I never had a chance. I blamed my mother for everything bad that happened in my life. I admit I played my victim role perfectly. I was wounded and I wanted the entire world to know it. Before I nearly destroyed myself, and dug myself a hole so deep I couldn’t get out. I realized that, I had to start clawing and climbing my way up out of that hole. There was no way out but up.
I realized that I didn’t want Satan to win. I had to become wiser in my ways. I have to become a victor.
Life isn’t fair, and you have to overcome the obstacles put in your life. If there is any way to find peace and joy in your life, being a victim isn’t the way to do it.
They say experience is a excellent teacher. But I sure wish someone would have told me what I’m telling you now. I don’t know if I would have understood it, but I would have loved to have the option.
If profound experiences have happened to you in unpleasantness in the past, do not turn that wound within yourself. Turn it into wisdom.
Many people I see in society have come to the conclusion just like I did that being joyful is out of the question. Maybe it’s time to move beyond that.
There are people that say, “I’m like this because because of the way my because someone treated me poorly. They are making that situation into something that they cannot change for a reason of what they are today. After some hard lessons I’ve realized that no one can change what happened to me, nor can anyone else who have had painful situations in their lives. When you say “My present condition is only because of that, you are only ensuring that you cannot change.
The most unpleasant the situations that happen to us, the more possibility for us to grow out of our limitations. That’s what happened to be, I became so wounded that the only way out was up.
But, when unpleasant situations come we must grow quickly, and because wise to it. Painful experiences have a profound impact on our lives. When it comes our way, in whatever form. Don’t let it go to waste. These impacts is what helps up mature. Don’t turn that pain towards yourself curate it into wisdom.
Every life situation that comes to you, you can use it either to liberate yourself or to bind yo. You are not the way you are because of the situations that you have faced. You are the way you are because you have let those sick what they have done to you. If you are willing you can change that.
Sadhguru
Things that happen in our lives leave impressions on us. Don’t let your mind become a garbage can. Every one we meet in this life will try and stuff something into our heads. We have choices to what we receive in our minds. We have the choice on how we react and make use of it in our lives. We will either become wounded by it, or wise to it.
From Pity to Praise 