For as long as I can remember, I have been an extremely emotional person. I feel everything deeply. In the past, it was very difficult for me to handle situations rationally because I let my emotions cloud the truth and prevent me from being objective.
Through the years I have come to learn that separation of the two is one of the most important thinks one can master.
I believe when someone lacks the ability to separate emotion and objectivity, they start to embody the idea that another person’s feelings are their fault and visa-verse. I’ve struggled with this a lot in my life. You have to be able to see the facts instead of the feelings.
I think emotions should always be embraced and allowed to flow through us, other wise we just keep stuffing them down deeper and deeper into our soul. Which causes physical and mental disease. I used to to places high value on my feelings, and had the mindset that everything felt was the truth. The results of that mindset forced me to realize that holding my emotions higher than objectively also caused an immense amount of harm.
Facts over feelings is important in general, and I think it’s even more important when it comes to being hurt by others. Personally, that when my emotions are at their highest. However, when my feelings are hurt, it doesn’t automatically mean there is someone to blame.
Sometimes I just react, which I’m sure most people do. We project our feelings onto other’s because we feel hurt and we think someone should be accountable for that hurt, even the other didn’t intentionally cause it.
It took me a really long time to accept that i am accountable for my own feelings. People are accountable for harm and harmful each day. We can let ourselves get hurt 24/7 if we let our emotions drive us. It’s completely up to us. It’s up to us to understand our own emotions and have a level of trust in those who love us,
I will always value my emotions, and I think my sensitivity is a gift. I think it allows me to love harder and connect to people more deeply, which is something that brings me joy. I just don’t let it drive anymore.
From Pity to Praise 