When faced with a lingering problem, what do you do?
It’s as simple as analyzing two solutions. Try to remove the problem, or investigate and analyze it to see find the real source of the problem.so it doesn’t resurface.
I believe in the “go see and clarify approach. When an issue occurs, the solution is found by understanding the problem, asking questions, inspecting the issue closely and then work from there.
There are actually 5 basic ways to do this:
The Analysis Technique
Whenever a issue, or a problem occurs, simply ask, why did the problem occur? every problem has a cause behind it, but a superficial analysis will only depict symptoms. A persistent inquiry is required to find the real cause (the root cause) behind the issue so that lasting solutions can be taken and the problem doesn’t resurface.
Let’s say, Roxie is suffering from depression, she goes to the doctor expecting to be put on anti- depressants. But in order to find a solution, the doctor wants to find out what she’s been experiencing in her life. Roxie is a stay at home mother, and her husband works 60-70 hours a week. She is raising her children alone, taking care of the house and finances. She is completely overwhelmed. The root cause of her depression isn’t medical and anti-depressants won’t solve the problem it will only mask it (cover it up). The solution is for her to have a conversation with her husband and come up with a solution that fits both of them. Maybe he can come home early one day a week and spend time with her, and let her know he really loves her, and appreciates her. That one day of the week will give her something to look forward to, and also influence her choice to take better care of herself. She needs to bring a feeling of being valued back into her life.
What appeared to be a problem for Roxie, was just a symptom of the actual issue. If you treat the symptom then the actual problem is not solved and will resurface again and again.
Understanding the root cause can keep us from feeling like the victim. Without understanding and tackling the root cause, we’re stuck being the helpless victim the illusionary world we’ve created for ourselves.. we’re getting smacked around without seeing the way things actually work.
There’s a root cause for distraction that lies deep with in us. It’s the reason we rationalize away our actions even when we know they’re not what we intended. Unless we understand the root cause of the why? we cannot stay on track, and we tend to always be playing someone else’s game.
Here’s a place to start to find the root cause of life’s problems
- Do you feel sorry for yourself?
Everyone has problems in their life. No one is special or privileged. We all have trials and tribulations we have to go through. It’s part of life.
- Are you blaming anyone for what you are to blame for?
We all have two options, either change the situation your in, or change the environment you are in. This was really tough for me to here, when I was told this. Don’t complain, either work on finding a solution for your problem or get away from it. Everything else is just rubbish.
- Are you holding on to forgiveness?
Don’t hold on to resentment or Unforgiveness, you are only hurting yourself. Do what ever you have to do, and move on. There’s a reason the rear view mirror is small and the windshield is large.
- Are you being responsible for your own feeling’s, actions, and thinking?
Your feeling’s, actions, and the way you think are not someone else’s responsibility. don’t try and push them on anyone else.
Do some cognitive reframing in your life. Shift your mindset to look at situations, people, and relationships from a different angle.
From Pity to Praise 