The 3 C’s Of Life

Life is made up of choices that change our present and future.

When I was struggling to put myself back together after years of abuse before I was a true believer I began seeing a therapist. I was broken and lost. I had been to many, and was convinced there was no hope for me. My thoughts were it was just another one that people insisted me to go to. Their choice, not mine.

If I would have had I choice, mine would have been to crawl in a hole and die. That’s harsh I know. But after 30 years of pain and suffering my mind was definitely not in a good place. I was broken in a way no one could fix (so I thought). As I walked in the office, I seen people sitting there and immediately thought “I wonder if these people as messed up as me.”

When I entered the office and met the therapist my head was I swivel mode. Looking for anything that would tell me what kind of person the therapist was. The pictures, the hangings on the wall that were supposed to make you feel better, you know the ones that say, “good things are going to happen.” I saw nothing like that just a few scenic pictures.

As we began he asked about my life. And like any time before I told him some but I had secrets I wouldn’t tell anyone. Those were between the devil and me.

As I continued in therapy, I was complaining about my husband. All in my version of course.

After a few times in therapy, he told me something that changed me and the way I saw life. He called it the 3 C’s of life:

• Choices
• Chances
• Changes

These three choices are in relation to situations and in particular our life situations that we may not be to happy with. Every circumstance we find ourselves really boils down to this.

1. You can remove yourself from the situation

2. You can change the situation

3. You can accept the situation fully

Ultimately we all have choices in life, we all have the ability to choose, the issues come when we don’t feel empowered to make right choices that will benefit us or make our lives better.

The therapist I was so discouraged about seeing changed my life. I slowly began to learn how to change my life for the better. And eventually told him all the secrets I was holding onto that only the devil and I knew. I began healing.

The Bible tells us in Luke 8:17 that “nothing is hidden that will not come to light.“

We have to work on empowering ourselves to make the choices, or at least to be comfortable with how the situation may pan out.

We have to develop self-awareness to realize that we can create our reality and that there may be some things we can’t change right now, but we can work towards being able to.

Sometimes we will find ourselves in situations that we aren’t happy with, it’s in those times that we have to ask ourselves whether we can change it, remove ourselves from the situation, and if not then how can we accept it and embrace what it is?

This little lesson that took about 5 minutes to learn completely changed my life. It’s simple, direct and to the point.