One thing I’ve learned throughout my life is that people wear masks. Being an observer is much better than being a talker.
A person shows their true character when they let their guard down and their masks slip off.
A person who is kind to you but not to others is not genuinely kind and is potentially a calculating person, because their behavior suggests they are acting with a specific self-serving motive, potentially to gain something from you by appearing kind while not extending that same courtesy to others.
I once went out to lunch with a friend who invited some of her friends. They seemed nice enough when I met them before lunch but when we sat down and the waitress came to our table, it was a different scenario. They were rude and condescending to her. I couldn’t believe what I was watching. My first thought was the poor waitress having to listen to them spew ugliness out of their mouths. And my second thought was, I needed to get out of there as soon as possible.
As I was leaving I got the waitresses attention and apologized to her for having to deal with them. To say the least I never associated with them after that.
There is no need to surround yourself with that kind of people. Don’t be afraid of pushing these kind of people away.
“Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what I’d good for building others up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear” -Ephesians 4:29
From Pity to Praise 