Everyone has fears. Some of them are very common, like spiders, heights, needles, or small spaces. Others might be unique. Some people find their fears interfere in their day to day lives. They might not do certain activities to avoid anything that frightens them.
For example, I have a family member who fears trains, and buses which sometimes interferes with her getting together with family.
There are ways to help people, cope with their day-to-day fears.
It’s difficult to think clearly when you were scared or anxious. But if you can, take time out to physically calm down.
Try getting away from what upsetting you, staying away from certain situations for at least 15 minutes.
I used to have fear and panic attacks being around large groups and small areas. Almost like if I was claustrophobic. I left the room walked around until I calmed down.
When we are in panic mode because of fear our . Stay where you are and let yourself feel the fear, even though it is uncomfortable. Placing the palm of your hand on your stomach and breathing slow and deeply. Causes I said, get our mind used to coping with the panic which takes away the fear of feeling panicky.
Avoiding what we fear only makes them worse. Gradually exposing yourself to the thing you are scared of and help you maintain control and overcome the fear.
If you face the fear, you might find that it isn’t as scary as you thought. For example, if you panic getting on a bus is best to get back on a bus for next day.
The anxiety we get from fear isn’t harmful. Anxiety and fear can feel overwhelming. Someone may worried that the signs of anxiety and panic like a fast heartbeat our signs of a serious health problem. 
These concerns can make anxiety and fear worse.  so it’s important to remember that it’s our bodies response to fear and it’s normal. It’s designed to protect you from danger.
It sometimes helps to Challenge your negative thoughts. We have the power to change our thoughts. Negative thoughts can set us in a pattern of all-or-nothing mode. Seeing things in black or white. Such as viewing yourself as a total failure if your life isn’t perfect. And overgeneralization like seeing a single negative event as a never-ending defeat or pattern.
There is something called catastrophizing which is a cognitive distortion that involves exaggerating the negative consequences of events or decisions.
One of the biggest flaws I have found myself in is always trying to be perfect. I grew up always trying to please my mother, because of the negative consequences I would face if I didn’t. My thought pattern was focused on “must” or “should” thoughts constantly. Thinking this way only caused more fear and anxiety. I had no compassion for myself. I was downright brutal on myself. Which led to no happiness at all.
Learning to identify my negative thoughts, and even to challenge my thoughts allowed me to replace my negative thoughts with positive more realistic ones. Practicing acceptance and mindfulness helped me to build self-awareness.
Building a support network in your life can be a valuable asset to share your thoughts and also having someone who can listen without judgment.
Negative thoughts can become a defense mechanism that protects us from things not working out. But they can also prevent us from putting our best foot forward.
From Pity to Praise 