If you can’t control your circumstances, control your focus. When we are faced with situations beyond our power to change, we can still exert influence by focusing on what we can change, such as our reaction, our attitude, and our actions. I have found that this reduces anxiety and increases a sense of agency in our lives.
We can acknowledge that certain things are simply out of reach, and trying to control them is futile. we may not be able to control the external world, but we can choose how to react to it. Our reactions are either positive or negative, and Susie to respond with calmness and acceptance can help us manage stress.
Well, we may not be able to change the circumstances we are in, we do still take action within our own sphere of influence. Focusing on our efforts and decisions, even the small ones, can lead to positive outcomes and a sense of accomplishment.
Our attitude can greatly impact how we experience situations. By focusing on the positive aspects of our lives, even in challenging times, we can cultivate a sense of optimism and resilience.
It’s important to stay grounded and focus on the present moment, reducing the impact of worries about what we can’t control. Focusing on what we can control.
When circumstances aren’t in our control, we can try to control them, and end up being hyper focused on certain things. It’s easy to stay catastrophizing, overgeneralizing, or have a all or nothing mindset. This tends to cause us to have low self esteem, low confidence, and feelings of helplessness and hopelessness.
Trying to control everything ends up, making us feel more out of control, because the truth is, we can’t control everything.
From Pity to Praise 