Being Judgmental seems to be second nature to many of us, and these days it seems like through greater the judginess, the bigger the external reward, which makes resisting the urge even harder.
The judgier the post on social media or YouTube video, the more likes it seems to get. The Judgier the content the greater the viewership.
I think judginess is leading us to a cease pool of inactivity, bullying, polarization, and pain. Judginess has oozed out of all of us despite our best intentions.
I think understanding the other person’s perspective is essential to solving problems is key. We’ve gotten to the “if you disagree with me I hate you phase.” There is no growth in that just more judging. We have to be able to distinguish between judging actions and judging people.
We need to ask ourselves “What do I really know about the person I’m judging? We all have histories and baggage. We all have various levels of reactivity, apathy, hurt, denial, anger, and hypocrisy. We are all imperfect. We can consciously choose to cut the person some slack and still influence them to change their behaviors.
We’ve all been judged. We all know how it feels to be stung by judgment. Do we really want to add the suffering and pain of someone else? Unless the person has wronged you personally, chances are you don’t let this reflection temper your judgment.
We can see the impact of judginess all around us. Fighting in the streets, bombings, shootings. All by people who have believed someone else’s words of why they judge others. It’s become a ripple effect of judgment that leads to pain.
From Pity to Praise 