If you had to give up one word that you use regularly, what would it be?
If I had to give up one word. I would try to not use filler words like, “um,” “like,” or “you know.”
Filler words affect us in a few subtle ways. It disrupts our train of thought.
If you have ever seen someone on television being questioned and noticed someone using filler words to them it can be very telling. People use different fillers, depending on stress levels, intent, and role. Interrogations are high stress, high stake situations. The brain is working hard, recalling details, filtering information, and managing anxiety. But if they’re using too many filler words, it can be a sign of deception.
Filler words are normal parts of spoken language, everyone uses them. They usually happen when we’re thinking on our feet, unsure of what to say next, nervous or self-conscious, or trying to hold a place in a conversation. By the overuse of filler words can lead others to perceive you in ways that don’t reflect your actual abilities.
Using them too much and hurt how we’re perceived, especially when you’re trying to appear confident, credible, and persuasive.
My goal is to always be conscious of my use of filler words. I think also a telltale sign, that shows people we aren’t prepared for something.
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