With all that is going on in the world today, have you ever thought about what I would be like yo go back a year or two with what you and I know now?
I have and i would make a few changes. But the past is what makes us who we are today. Our past shapes our present and helps us identify who we are and where we are headed.
It’s natural to use our past experiences as a point of reference for our current situations. The choices we make for ourselves today are often influenced by our past. If we are using healthy judgment to guide our choices, then we can use past regrets, mistakes, and pain to be used as markers for what we do not want in our lives.
For some people the past is not seen as a place of reflection but as a destination. People who struggle with letting go of the past pain or regret – for those that feel trapped by there situation and unable to move forward in their lives, there is a solution. It’s called faith.
Romans 10:17 tells us, “So faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.”
We can go and look for all kind of answers to help us through the pain of life, but the best solution and the only real one is faith.
The pain in our past and in our present life has a way of making us feel stuck. In times of emotional pain, we may find ourselves thinking back to when we felt happier which can help motivate us in the present.
If in the past we were proud of an accomplishment we achieved, thinking of our past successes can help motivate us in moving forward in life.
Looking back and remembering our past positive experiences can be a healthy option for setting goals for focusing on our future. While a little reflection can be healthy and even foster creativity, too much reflection or ruminating on past negative experiences can drift into depression and leads to feeling stuck.
This is where Faith comes in to help us through the trials for the day.
Remembering the past and seeing God at work in our lives is something that we need too put as the best habit to have.
Our past experiences can affect our current mindset and our choices in how we interpret our lives. If pain or trauma has been experienced in our past, it can impact how we view our current circumstances or even prevent us from living in the present.
There is research that exists that says, how past negative experiences are often associated with in increased incidences of anxiety, depression, impulsivity, low self-esteem and poor changes. For example if we have suffered betrayal from a loved one in a relationship, we may re-live the traumatic experience as it plays in our mind.
Certain smells, foods, places, or songs may “trigger” re-experiencing the pain. Which often results in trying to push away the intrusive thoughts or feelings. This can head to other symptoms including social isolation, distrust in others, self-sabotaging behavior and an inability to move forward in our lives. In other words, still living in the past.
But we can ask and receive from God in our daily walk, the new life He has given us freely when we put Him at the center of our daily living.
My Pastor always says, to pray and ask God before you make a decision, and then obey what He tells you and you can’t go wrong. But, how many times do we just act and not ask God first?
When we take the step to have a true relationship with God, the past in something we can talk back on as a learning experience to get he in the direction that God had for us in life.
Healing from the past or traumatic experiences is not something that happens overnight. It is a process that requires patience, dedication, and a strong commitment to change. Humans are wired to want to feel good and minimize feeling bad, which often triggers self-sabotaging behavior in an attempt to avoid pain. When we experience a painful event such as betrayal or other traumatic experiences, it can re-wire us for self-preservation. We may live in fight, flight or fawn mode, constantly anticipating more pain in our lives which can be unconsciously welcomed through our actions.
Or we can put the past in the past and live with the for Jesus.
To live in the present,
Establishing boundaries, this means something different for everyone, but the main point is to give yourself time to heal and to move ahead at your own pace. Maybe establishing boundaries for you is being more selective about who you welcome into your life. With boundaries, consistency is let in helping let go of the past and living in the present.
Step Forward Not Back.
Accepting that the past is a done deal. We can’t change it. And being stuck in the past is only hurting your potential in the present. By accepting that the past is over, it allows us to grieve and release the pain that we may be carrying with us a long time. Be honest with yourself in your acceptance and take the time you need to grieve. You don’t have to do it alone. Do it with Jesus. Isaiah 41:10 says,
“Fear not, for I am with you. Be not displayed for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
Practicing mindfulness. Which is teaching ourselves how to stay in the present and to calm our minds when experiencing emotional triggers that come along during the healing process.
It’s important to have a “reset button.” We are human, and that means we are perfectly imperfect. As with any new skill, they take time to develop and master. Be kind to yourself if you slip up and find yourself removing the past or reverting back to old behavior patterns. Use the reset button to help gauge where you are in your personal development. The reset button can be reading the Bible, practicing mindfulness, or anything that breaks up those old behavior patterns.
Work on developing new habits to move on in life. Try being a light in our dark world,
Balance is key when working on self-improvement. Being okay with being disconnected from social media or from friends or family for a while as you work on healing yourself and focusing on self-care. When we are alone, we are able to get to know ourselves and give ourselves the attention and love we need to stop living in the past.
Spend time with Jesus, not only praying but listening. Each day is a new day in our lives, let the old pass and the new be on its way.

