What strategies do you use to cope with negative feelings?
The first thing I do is try and recognize the negative feelings I am having and finding out the root cause. Nothing can be fixed or coped with until we know where it’s coming from.
When negative feeling come my way I consider my past experiences and practice self awareness, mindfulness, and reframing techniques Ive learned to cope with such feelings.
Understanding the traumatic events, and unresolved conflicts or negative experiences in past. And then focus on positive and realistic alternatives for a more positive mindset and practicing self compassion.
Paying attention to when I am experiencing negative feelings and what situations ot trigger seem to bring them on.
By questioning if the feeling is accurate or based on overthinking the situation or if it an over generalization. And then gather evidence to support my feeling or refute the negative feeling and see if there is a more balanced perspective.
Then replace the negative feeling with a positive one. And then focus on something positive.
During the 40 days of Lent many people do a fast. Giving up something for lent like chocolate or a bad habit does not get us closer to God.
There is something called “The Daniel Fast” that many pastors do that we can do also. And is used instead of the 3-day fast, for extended period of time. The key is spiritual renewal.
We can fast for personal spiritual renewal, seek to draw closer to God and deepen our relationship with Him.
The Daniel fast is a 21-day inspired dietary plan based on the biblical story of Daniel. And involve-abstaining from animal products, process foods, and other specific items, with the focus on fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and legumes.
But Daniel fast is rooted in the book of Daniel, particularly Daniel 1:8-14 and Daniel 10:2-3, where Daniel and his companion chose to eat vegetables and drink water instead of the kings, rich foods and wine.
The purpose was often undertaken as a form of spiritual discipline, prayer, and seeking God‘s guidance, rather than slowly as a weight loss method.
Included are lists of the foods to eat, and foods to avoid. If you are interested in trying a Daniel Fast.
When we choose to accept Jesus into our lives there comes an important point when we learn how to deal with shame and regret.
When we experience trauma from someone we trusted, make poor decisions, or feel like we inherited sin from our family, shame finds an open door to invite itself into our lives. Sometimes situations have nothing to do with our actions but the actions of others.
No matter how shame enters our lives, it affects our lives intensely. Just like sin, shame is not hidden easily. Shame can come through jealousy, discontentment, and strife.
When we choose Jesus, we choose love and can say goodbye to shame and regret. Jesus dealt with our shame and guilt on the cross and made us free. Confessing our sin to Him, washes us clean, so we can start over. He gives us a new identity.
Nothing was more powerful than when I heard a fellow church goer say to me one day when I was struggling. “You are not your mother’s sin.” That statement hit me like a ton of bricks. Even though I was saved by Jesus, I still felt the burden of my mother’s sin. I mentally, emotionally, and sometimes physically carried the weight of it.
Jesus carried that weight of sin on the cross. He is the weight bearer. We can give all our shame, and guilt and yes even the weight of sin we carry for others over to Him. His dying on the cross gave us atonement to be forgiven and to no longer be controlled by shame and guilt. Jesus said in Zephaniah 3:29,
“I will give them praise and honor, whose shame has been in all the earth.”
Say goodbye to shame and regret and hello to freedom and purpose.
I used to love parties, but anymore they bore me. They are a place that forces me to engage in small talk. I don’t find it interesting being around people of consume a lot of alcohol and make fools of themselves.
The loud music and crowded spaces are overwhelming leaving me with a desire to escape. These social settings are monotonous and uninteresting because I feel like I’m being pressured to participate.
I would rather be around a few friends where I am free to be myself have deep conversations and drink a glass of wine.
Life is full of choices. Choose wisely. Chose life and blessing.
There are three constants in life, change, choice, and principle.
Every choice we make has a result. Destiny is no matter of chance. It’s a matter of choice. It’s not a thing to be waited on, it’s a thing to be achieved.
People used to say “What would Jesus do?” I think it would be better if it said “What would Jesus not do?”
Choices are a fact of life. And some choices are harder than others.
We are all given a choice between life and death, between blessing or curse. It would reason that the choice would be obvious and easy.
Yet, we live in a world in which people are constantly choosing death and cursing.
Jesus and salvation for eternity in heaven with peace.
Or
Sin and worldliness in an eternity in satan’s he’ll with torment.
We are either all in or we’re not. Jesus said:
“I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing, therefore choose life, that you and your descendants may live” -Deuteronomy 30:19
I pray every morning,
“Let the words of my mouth and the mediation of my heart be acceptable in your sight. My Lord, my rock, my redeemer” -Psalm 19:14
What movies or TV series have you watched more than 5 times?
I have watched “Wind River” it’s a harrowing thrill movies, based on an 18, year old woman found an American Indian reservation dead in snowy Wyoming with signs of foul place. The wildlife officer found her. Now he has to find out why she was old there and who was involved.
I have also watched the first and second series of “The Chosen” quite a few times. This movie characterizes what Jesus was like after John the Baptizer baptized Him. This movie does something to my soul. It just makes me happier.
The number 13, black cats, breaking mirrors, or walking under ladders is something some people actively avoid. 25% of people in America considers himself superstitious.
Even if we don’t consider ourselves superstitious, We probably say “bless you” or “God bless you” when someone sneezes, just in case the devil should decide to steal our souls -our ancestors thought possible during a sneeze.
Superstition also explain why many buildings do not have the number 13 on there elevators or doors. Because it’s a concern about superstitious tenants. 13% of people in a survey indicated that staying on the 13th floor of the hotel would bother them and 9% said they would ask for a different room room. Some airlines also don’t have a 13th row.
There is no single definition to being superstitious, but general means a believe in supernatural forces. The desire to influence unpredictable factors and a need to resolve uncertainty.
In Matthew 6, Jesus’s disciples asked Jesus to teach them how to pray. These men grew up hearing prayers in the synagogue. They knew the prayers of scripture. They even heard Jesus pray. Yet, they wanted to learn how to pray.
Over the years I have read many books on prayer. Each one has helped me learn about the heart and purpose of prayer. Yet no matter how skilled I think I am in prayer, or how well I construct and organize my prayer, no matter the length, there are times when I go to the Lord and simply have no words.
We might have stood muted before of the painful sorrows of life. Barely being about to breathe, much less give a voice to how our heart is broken by loss or paralyzed by great fear. And prayer just seems impossible when we feel like we are drowning in despair, fear, pain, sorrow, or shame. When I am made silent by the circumstances of life, I remember what David said in Psalm 77:4,
“I am so troubled that I can’t speak.”
I realize I am not alone. Psalms tells us the groans of David’s and the echoes of our own hearts.
“I am weary with my moaning, every night I flood my bed with tears, I drench my couch with my weeping” -Psalm 6:6
What God wants most isn’t necessarily a steam of eloquent words, but a broken spirit, and a contrite heart (Psalm 51:17).
When we bring a broken heart. Just a simple act of coming before His throne of grace reveals the content of our hearts. He sees our humble offering and if all we can muster up is “Help me!” that is enough.
The Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. When we don’t know what to pray the Holy Spirit intercedes for us with groanings that are too deep for words. Even when our mouth is hindered, our sprit is not.
No matter how much of your anguish has gone unnoticed by others, not one moment has escaped the attention of God because He neither climbers of sleeps.
When our difficulties of life mute us, remember it is not how well we pray, but that we pray.
I have gone to God with my hardships of life (there have been many). I have felt the weight of my sin and the sting of arrows flung at me from others, and the pain of loss and heartache. God has given me mercy and grace even when I come to Him with wordless prayers, He has heard my heart.
“My tears flood my bed day and night. All I can do is cry out to You for help. Hear me Lord, Help me, Lord. Help me to know who you are. Carry me through this, comfort me with your love” (Psalm 6:6 -Paraphrased).
Throughout life, we will face many pressures that try and bully us into becoming quitters. The enemy tries to convince us into giving up.
Don’t do it!
You are not defeated and never will be unless you quit.
God had answers in every situation we find ourselves in. No matter how much the enemy tries to pile things on our plates, don’t despair. We don’t have to eat the cares of this life. God didn’t create us with the ability to handle everything. He gave us the ability to cast all our troubles on Him.
I don’t know about your lives, but mine it sure seems like once one thing goes wrong everything goes wrong. The great pile-up attack. They hit from every direction to try and make me feel frustrated and helpless.
We cannot handle it all, but we can trust God through it all.
Our job is not to deal with every troubled situation. Our job is to call all of our cares in every situation over to God because He can handle it.
I used to be a chronic worrier. Everything that didn’t go my way or that I was “in control” of I worried about it. Heck, I worried about other people’s worries. One day I heard God say “Kathy, I got this.”
The only thing worry does is make our blood pressure go high and make us sick. God is in control of everything in the universe. God’s Got This!
“Pour out all your worries and stress upon Him and leave them there, for He always tenderly cares for you” -1 Peter 5:7 (TPT).
When we trust God we gain strength. Because our strength is from Him.
When life overwhelms us, it is natural to look for comfort. It’s easy to choose the things of the world to calm and comfort us, whether it be alcohol, drugs, or anything else that gives us comfort. But if we follow Jesus we should search for comfort in two places either His presence or His Word.
During difficult times we should shift our focus to the things of God, not the world, instead of looking for the comforts of earth or living in fear of our circumstances, we can look to the One who holds us up. But, it begins with recognizing who God is.
God’s Word is given to us as the rock to build our lives upon. We can turn to it when life happens and seek relief.
When we know the power of prayer and acknowledge who God is, His character, and worth, we can acknowledge who we are and ask for His grace. This draws us closer to God -the source of our comfort, our strength, and our peace.
Which animal would you compare yourself to and why?
If you took the strengths of others and compared them to your weaknesses, how would you think you’d size up? Do you think this would make you feel good?
The funny thing is this is what most of has done at one time or another.
It’s a surefire way for a drop in self-confidence and unhappiness. It’s also not useful.
Whether it’s another person an animal or even an inanimate object there is no point. It will only drag you down and isn’t healthy.
It is also not who God created any of us to be. It’s important to be able to look at your own strengths and see your true value. It’s actually one of the keys to success, because without this ability, you will be unmotivated and won’t believe in yourself.
The fact that God created us to be ourselves, to be unique in our own way is a gift I do not take for granted.
We can waste our lives away wanting to be someone or something else. Be you. Be unique.
God promises to be with the elderly, to take care of them, and to sustain them through old age.
If I lasted to 100 years of age, my letter will only include promises from God.
Even in old age, I am He even when you turn gray I will carry you. -Isaiah 46:4
Though my flesh and my heart fail, God is the rock of my heart, my portion forever. -Psalm 73:26
With a long life, I will satisfy him and let him see My salvation. -Psalm 91:16
You shall go to your father’s in peace. You will be buried at a good old age. -Genesis 15:15
These verses, tell me that God’s love and concern for the elderly is unending. They also suggest that old age is a normal part of life life, and that God sees it as a blessing and a reward.
Psalm 90:10 says, 70 years are given to us. Some even live to 80. But even the best years are filled with pain and trouble, soon they disappear and we fly away. 
From Pity to Praise 