The idea of learning to love one’s self is rather vague- how do we do it? But the idea of caring for one self seems possible. And it leads to self-love, maybe it’s really worthwhile to think about how we take better care of ourselves.
But, sometimes we don’t take care of ourselves, and one reason- or is it an excuse? Is because we are busy take care others. This is how most families were raised.The greatest value is placed on being selfless. I’m not sure this is a healthy strategy recognizing a link between selflessness and repression. Some of this is recognized in myself as well as my siblings.
I remember my father, from my adult view of him. As pretty repressed. He put a lot of energy into being good guy and doing good deeds, but under that good guy appearance he did a Some inappropriate things sometimes. The idea to self love was foreign to him. My mother put on this appropriate woman scene around everyone and was the perfect wife. But was very angry inside and took a lot out of it on me. And also didn’t know anything about self-love.
Some people who are selfless use things to cover up other issues so they don’t have to look at aspects of themselves that they don’t like. But when selflessness is used to repress aspects of ourselves, what’s being covered up will eventually come out and people will be hurt.
I think the solution is to learn how to embrace, care for, and integrate all of our imperfections, and make sure that we take time to nourish and care for ourselves. This requires a non-judgmental curiosity which is at the heart if living conscious.
If we take the time to practice caring for ourselves, and create a healthy “me” we’re ultimately more able to love not only ourselves, but, also others. This is why we should all take time to invest in personal growth and nourishing ourselves.