The Bible tells us clearly what are boundaries are and how to protect them, but often our family, or other past relationships, confuses us about our parameters.
In addition to showing us what we are responsible for boundaries help us define what is and is not on our property and what we are not responsible for. We are not responsible. We are not, for example, responsible for other people. Nowhere’s are we commanded to have other-control although we spend a lot of time and energy trying to get it.
To and For:
We are responsible to others and for ourselves. Carry each other’s burdens says Galatians 6;2 and this is the way you will fulfill the law of Christ. This verse shows our responsibility to one another.
Many times others have burdens that are too big to bear. They do not have enough strength, resources, or knowledge to carry the load, and they need help. On the other hand verse 5 tells up each one should carry his own load. Everyone has responsibilities that only he or she can carry. These things are our own particular load that we need to rake responsibly for and work out. No one can do certain things for us. We have to take ownership of certain things for us. We have to take ownership of certain aspects of life that are our own load.
Good in Bad out:
My son was in the service and he always says this is what they told him. Good in- Bad out. As per eating if you eat Good- good will come out- if you eat bad- bad will come out. I automatically think of this when I hear this.
Boundaries help us to distinguish our property so that we are careful of it. They help us to guard our heart with all diligence. We need to keep things that will nurture us inside our fences and keep things that harm us outside. In short boundaries help us keep the good in and the bad out. They guard our treasures so that people will not steal them. They keep pearls inside and the pigs outside.
Sometimes, we have the bad on the inside and the good on the inside. In these instances, we need to be able to open up our boundaries to let the good in and the bad out. In other words, our fences need gates on them. For example, if I find that I have some pain or sin within, I need to open up and communicate it to God and others, so I can be healed. Confusing pain and sin helps to get it out so that it does not continue to poison me on the inside. And when the good is on the outside our gates and let it in.
Jesus speaks of this phenomenon in receiving him and his truth ( Rev. 3;20 John 1;12.) other people have good things to give us, and we need open up to them. Often we will close our boundaries to good things from others, staying in a state of deprivation. We need to set boundaries not walls.