Did you ever notice the little voice inside your head that’s constantly running the play-by-play of your life-to you, The Who’s actually living it? Did you ever Listen in to your inner navigator, the ones who’s unceasingly packaging your life, verbally preparing your experience for transmission to another unidentified listener? I just went on a mini retreat, but apparently the inner narrator didn’t get the memo that is was to remain silent. For the first couple hours the voice in my head didn’t stop talking, not even to catch an imaginary breath. With obsessive precision p, it explained to me what I was doing, how I had transformed, and what spiritual lessons I had learned. Over and over my inner narrator repeated my experiences to me.
It’s a odd thing, really: As we’re having an experience, the little voice in our head is simultaneously describing, explaining, and commentating on it, providing a summary before, during, and after its unfolding.
The narration is so interval to our experience itself, so uninterrupted and merged with it, as to make us wonder if there could be an experience without the report. If an experience happens with the little voices inner acknowledgment, thinking,and commentary, does it actually happen.
It’s interesting to notice that the little voice is not without its own characteristics. It has a certain language, style, and tone, it does it’s story telling and commentary with a thematic constituency. Like a Hollywood screenwriter, the voice tends to write in a particular genre- tragedy, comedy, drama, film. Our commentator is a character with an identity of its own.
Did you ever wonder why our mind is telling us what we’re doing while we’re still doing it, as if we didn’t already know? Or why our mind is so adamant about getting the story of our life figured out, written, and packaged? And finally, why we need to rehearse the tales of our life before we actually need or want to convey it to another person.
The mind believes we are made up of mind and mind alone, and that without its felt presence, we would cease to be. If the narration were to stop, and the mind was not experiencing itself through the act of thinking there would be nothing-oblivion. A mind off duty, experience without thinking, is tantamount to nonexistence. The mind creates a story of an/; it creates an / as an object in our consciousness. In doing so, it maintains both experience of a self and the experience of a self, which it believes are needed to ensure survival.
In relentlessly narrating the story of ourselves to ourselves, the mind is attempting to make life, and us, into something solid, knowable, and constant. By creating a main character called me (played by mind) who’s living something called my life, the mind attempts to transform a short groundless ever-changing nature of being into something that can be understood, managed, and in theory, controlled. it takes what is really one unified process, life, from which we are inseparable, and spilts it into two different things-
First is there a downside to living with this inner narrator, and second, do we have to live this way- is it part and parcel to the human condition? Is there no alternative to a second-hand version of life, knowing experience only through the mind’s description and commentary?
The answer is both yes and no. Yes, there is a downside, and no, we are not condemned to live this way.
The small downside to living with the play-by-play of your life ceaselessly running in your ear is that it can be intensely agitating and distracting. There exists constant noise in the background and foreground of your life, like having a mosquito buzzing in your ear, one that you cannot silence or ignore.
But on a more profound level, the downside to the inner narrator is that it stands in the way of your actually getting to experience love firsthand, in all its richness. You’re regulated to living through your narrator’s description which is really just a mental representation of the real thing, like a postcard of the a beach or a description of chocolate. The little voice goes on then to offer commentary on the narration- a representation of a representation- and you are now two layers away from the direct experience of living.
You also might notice that the voice in your head presents it’s version of your life as a truth. It reports your life story as it were the actual reality existing in the objective world. It’s liberating, however , to realize that the narrator’s account of what is happening is all going on inside your own mind and only in your mind. It’s not real in any sense, but another story about a story which begins and ends inside your consciousness.
The good news is that you don’t have to live this way. If you’ve ever been deeply involved In a activity, you might have experienced what’s known as a flow state. In flow, we’re so engaged in what we’re doing that we cease to be aware of ourself. We’re no longer the one longer the one doing the activity- we’re literally absorbed into the experience itself. We become the experience, we become life, rather than the one who is living it, and all notion of time and a separate / disappears. And while the mind has convinced us otherwise, what we discover is that when the mind is not there self-referencing and reminding us of our self, we still exist. We do not disappear, which suggests we are more than our mind. Awareness remains, even when we lose the felt sense of our self as the one doing our life. Such experiences- the-one in which awareness of our self disappears, when there is experience but no / doing it- are the ones that we later describe as wholly satisfying, blissful, and even divine.
The experiences in which we are gone are the ones that we most crave.
The remedy for the little voice in Our head is three-fold. First, we have to get exhausted by it and become so fed up as we decide that we’re not willing to listen anymore. Once that’s happened, we must start noticing our narrator and become conscious of its voice as an object appearing in our awareness. Finally. We set a clear and fierce intention and desire to experience life directly, through our senses, now and not just received reports on it. We commit to diving deeply and directly into the ocean of life.
Listening to the that little voice in your head is a habit- one with deep roots, survival instincts, and lots of practice, but still a habit. With desire, willingness, and intention any habit can be changed. Each time you catch the voice in your head describing or commentating your life, practice a new habit: directly experiencing your actual experience. Each time you hear your little voice, pause and celebrate a moment of awareness- the fact that your hearing it means that there’s another Parton you awakening that you whom the narrator is narrating to. Next, Intentionally shift your attention fro your head ( which is where our energy is focused) into your body. Invite your body to consciously relax. Take and feel a deep breath. From there, run a sense loop: See what seeing , hear what your hearing, feel what your feeling, smell what you’re smelling, and taste what you’re tasting. Experience each, one at a time. Finally, sense your own presence, the feeling of aliveness in your body (but not your mind). With this practice, the little voice will grow quieter and less relentless, and the living will become more vivid, satisfying, immediate, and ultimately real.