Powerful Ways to Stand up for Yourself in Any Situation.

Every day we make dozens of little choices that either benefit us by asserting our ideas or diminish us because we hesitate In making our views or desires known.

Sometimes it seems easier to go with the flow to avoid potential conflict, but the truth is that letting people walk all over you can increase feelings of stress and anxiety. And it might eventually lesson your feeling of self worth and play to your insecurities.

I did this for years, I had told myself nothing mattered anymore. I just dealt with what happened. And told myself I could handle whatever happened. The truth was I was so stressed out I was giving myself Migraines, and I couldn’t sleep because all these things were in my head constantly. I had given myself a stroke and a nervous break down.

Learning to stand up for yourself will help you take charge of your life, believe in your own power and emboldened you to reach for your dreams. The stronger you feel, the stronger you will become.

Here are some steps to help you Stand up for yourself in any situation.

Practice being transparent and authentic.

It might be difficult at times, but if you learn to express yourself openly and honestly, it will feel like a heavy weight has been lifted off your shoulders. So often, we hide behind a halfhearted smile and nod instead of saying what we think. It takes practice but learning to be authentic and open about what you are feeling or thinking is the first step. Once you get in the habit of making yourself heard without being overly accommodating or defensive, people will be more open to hearing you.

Take small but powerful steps.

If your struggling with being assertive, Stuart taking small steps to stand up for yourself. Even just learning to walk more confidently- herald held high, shoulders back. Will help you appear and feel more confident.

Here’s a Bible Verse I think of when I’m afraid to assert myself.

The Lord is on my side; I will not fear what can man do to me.

Psalm 118:6

Channel that confidence when dealing with others. This attitude can apply to all areas in your life. Feeling annoyed at the person who cut in front of you in line. Ask them to politely to move to the back. See an unfair change on a bill from one of your service providers? Call the dispute it.

When someone attacks, wait them out.

As you grow more confident is expressing yourself, you’re also going to have to learn to face those who want to over ride you. There will always be people whose personalities are set to attack mode. It’s important that you remain calm but assertive if up you feel like son is going to bully you. Don’t allow yourself to get frazzled or react with low blows. Don’t cater to them or allow them to intimidate you either. Walk the high road but stand your ground.

Figure our What’s really bothering you.

Going with the flow for the purposes of not making waves actually creates more stress and anxiety for yourself. Of course mustering the courage to face something or someone that is bothering you can feel scary. But facing the issues will empower you do make it better and diminishes the control it has over you. Remember, people can’t read your mind; if you don’t vocalize what is bothering you, no one will know.

Clarify first without attacking.

It’s tempting to take a self-righteous stand, especially if you are sure you are in the right. From your viewpoint, you are justifiably defending yourself against someone who seems entirely in the wrong. But it’s important to resist the urge to react with emotion. Instead take a breath and calmly explain your perspective to them. Avoid combative tones or accusatory words. Clarify exactly what you mean and listen to their response. Only then can a real discussion begin to take place.

I still have a difficult time with this one. I have a loud stern voice, so I tend to talk in a way that I am mean or strong willed at times. People think I’m Angry all the time. I am not.

Practice makes perfect.

Once you start getting the hang of what it means to stand up for yourself, it’s time to practice asking for what you want as often as possible. When someone says something you openly disagree with, or you feel pushed into doing something you don’t want to do, say something. According to research it takes 66 days to form a new habit, so stick with the new assertiveness for two months and you might be surprised by the results.

Be Deliberate.

Here’s a situation that many of us have found ourselves in sharing space with a messy co-worker or roommate who is a slob. You might have remained silent. It might be tempting to slip into a passive-aggressive behavior, such as angrily cleaning. Up the mess or make snide remarks. Try being deliberate instead. Tell the personals you are feeling without being accusatory. Be straightforward with your concerns. Follow up with a simple suggestion that can correct the situation, such as . If you can take a minute to tidy up your space at night, it would be a big help.

Stand up for your time.

Time is precious and limited commodity, and yet we often feel pressured to give it away when we have the ability to say no. There are times when you might not have a choice. Such as when your boss says a project has high priority But don’t let obligations dictate how you spend the hours in your day. You are in control of your own time. Push back when it’s appropriate, or tactfully disengage from those people or situations that submerge your schedule.

Recognize that no one can invalidate you.

You are incomplete ownership of your feeling and actions. Your beliefs, emotions, thoughts, and ideas belong to you. And no one else can tell you what you feel or invalidate your opinions. Likewise, if you seek to invalidate other people’s points of view, you are also sabotaging any chance for problem-solving or having a open discussion.

Fake it until you make it.

Learning to stand up for yourself won’t happen over night. It takes time to grow comfortable with being assertive. While you are In The learning stage, it might help to imagine that you are an actor or actress learning to play a new role.

Imagine that you are the most assertive person you know. How would they handle themselves in a difficult situation? There might be times when you swing from being overly zealous to being indecisive. Learning to stand up for yourself is like riding a bike. Eventually you will find the right balance.

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