A victim according to the dictionary is a person who has been attacked, injured, robbed, killed, cheated, or fooled by someone else, r harmed by an unpleasant event.

Everyone gets attacked, injured, cheated, fooled, and harmed during their life- if not physically then emotionally. And everyone gets harmed by unpleasant events. We’re all victims, in moments, to life’s challenges and difficulties life’s licenses.

It’s physiologically healthy to acknowledge the suffering and feelings of powerlessness that accompany such experiences. And yet there are people who feel like victims all the time, regardless of their circumstances. Those with a victim mentality are always being victimized, at least in their own minds. They maintain a consistent victim identity and see life through perpetually victim-tinted glasses.

I was in this state of mind for many years. I had been a victim for a long time. It took me 30 years before learned I didn’t have to live like this anymore.

We all know people who seem to be constantly commenting on some injustice done to them-how others are denying them what they need, want, and deserve, controlling them against their will, and making them do what they don’t want to do. Or how life is against them and the universe is designed to punish them, personally. Perhaps you yourself are some who experiences life this way.

Neither feeling like a victim, or loving someone who’s convinced they’re the victim of life, is easy. Both are painful.

How to Break Free From Victim Mentality.

Take ownership and responsibility for your own needed and wants. Determine what you want and what’s important to you. Name it, and do what you need to do to make it happen- for yourself. Don’t waste time blaming or getting angry at those who don’t want or need the same things you do don’t wait for them to come on board or help you get what you want. Get busy taking care of what’s important to you, and leave others out of it.