Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.
You are changing. The universe around you is changing. Just because something was right for you in the past doesn’t mean it still is. This could be a relationship, a job, a home, or a habit.
It happens slowly as you grow. You discover more about who you are and what you want out of life, and then you realize there are deliberate changes you need to make yo keep up with the changes happening around you and within you.
The lifestyle you’ve been living no longer fits. The specific people and routines you’ve known forever no longer align with your values. So you cherish all the memories, but find yourself letting go and moving on.
If you’re currently dealing with this process you may feel a bit awkward and that’s okay. This feeling is normal. It’s been right there with you on more occasions than you can count.
Reasons to let go
Someone’s negativity is rubbing off on you- you are the average. Of the people, you spend the most time with. In other words, who you spend your time with has a great impact on the person you are. And the person you become. If you are around cynical and negative people all the time, you will become cynical and negative.
You have grown apart from someone -sad but true, no matter what you do or how much you explain yourself, some people will gradually evolve away from your core values as time goes on they will prove over and over again that they are committed to misunderstanding you and clashing with your needs.
You are truly unhappy with your current circumstances
It’s always better to be struggling at something you love than succeeding diligently at something you despise.
Your goals and needs have changed
What was right for you then is necessarily right for you now? Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but realizing that you have changed, and then learning. To start over with your new truth.
Fear is holding you back (remember fear is an emotion) part of letting go and moving on is facing the fears and disappointments of the past that are binding your spirit.
You catch yourself living in the past
If all you do is attempt to relive something that has already happened, you’re missing out. The mental space you create by letting go of things that are already behind you gives you the ability to fill the space with something fresh and fun.
An old grudge is still hurting you Holding on to the weight of anger, resentment, and hatred will not only hold you back but also block your present blessings and opportunities. You’ve just got to drop some things to move forward.
You aren’t learning anything new
Living is learning. All positive change is the end result of learning. If you aren’t learning you’re simply dying slowly.
Holding on is like there’s only a past, letting go and moving on is knowing in your heart that there’s a bright future ahead.
Accept the truth and be thankful. To let good to be thankful for the experiences that make you laugh, made you cry, and helped you learn and grow. It’s the acceptance of everything you have, everything you once had, and the possibilities that lie ahead. It’s all about finding the strength to embrace life’s changes, to trust your intuition, to continue taking positive steps forward.
Distance yourself for a while
Sometimes you need to take several steps back in order to gain clarity on a situation. The best way to do this is to simply take a break and explore something else for a while. Why? So you can return where you started and see things with a new set of eyes. And the people there may see you differently too. Returning where you started is entirely different than never leaving.
Focus only on what can be chamged
Realize that not everything in life is meant to be modified or perfectly understood. Live, let go. Learn what you can and don’t waste energy on things you cannot change, and if you can’t change it don’t waste energy worrying about the things you can’t change Focus on something you can change. If you change something you don’t like, change the way you think about it. Review your options. And then reframe what you don’t like into starting point for achieving something better.
Claim ownership and full control of your life
No one else is responsible for you. You aren’t full control of your life so long as you claim it and own it. Through the grapevine, you may have learned that you should blame your parents, your thoughts teachers, the education system, your friends, the government… But never blame yourself. RIGHT? It’s never your fault…WRONG. It’s always your fault because if you want to change if you want to let go and move on with your life, you’re the only person who can make it happen.
Take a chance
When life sets you up for a challenge, there’s a reason for it; it’s meant to test your courage and willingness to make a change on something new. There’s no point in denying that things are different now or being fearful of the next step. The challenge will not wait even if you hesitate. Life only moves in one direction- forward. This challenge is your chance to let go of the old and make way for the new. your destiny awaits your decision.
Focus on today
Decide right now that negative experiences from your past will not predict your future. Figure out what the next positive step is no matter how small or difficult, and take it. Ultimately, the only thing you can ever really do is keep moving forward. Take that leap without hesitation, without looking back. Simply forget the past, look straight ahead and forge toward the future.
The Floor is Yours
What are you holding on to that’s holding you back? What’s the first step you need to take to let it go?