I’m convinced that one of our missions in life is to learn what we need to become better versions of ourselves. That is why we do d ourselves in situations we don’t have the tools to handle. Then when we don’t know what to do with the circumstances and the associated emotions, we are presented with a learning opportunity.
Many times I have found myself in situations where I feel lost, not knowing where to start. They are mostly life-changing situations, events that demand us to make life-defining decisions even though we don’t understand what is really going on.
Proverbs 3: 5-6 tells us Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths.
For some people it’s the loss of a loved one, for others, it’s losing a job, or being in a car accident, or beings assaultedm a breakup, a divorce, even though we don’t understand what is going on God has plans for good and not for evil to give you a future and a hope.
Sometimes our situations seem traumatic. We the to overthink and only on a specific situation. We start to feel anxious about how we are going to get through it and maybe at the same time, sad or guilty about what’s happening. We question our decisions, ”Why did I do that?” or Why didn’t I do this?” or both. We tho kof the should haves, could haves and would haves, and then we blame ourselves and give the situation or people involved. The power to impact our self-confidence and self-esteem.
I have found most of the time everything works out for the best if you leave it to God. I always ask, seek and you will receive. For every one that asks receives and he that seeks will find, and to him, that knocks the door will be opened.
So don’t give our power to other people we start making divisions based on what other people say. Don’t give your power away to anyone. For example, I let other people tell me what kind of vehicle to buy for 25 years. I either hated my ride or ended up trading it in because I was not satisfied. Which was putting further and further in debt. I made the decision to trade-in my last car, not because I didn’t like it, but I ended being stranded during the winter months because it was dangerous to drive. I finally chose I vehicle that I wanted, and that was right for me. My husband absolutely hated it, but I just told him that he wasn’t the one driving it I was. I’ve had this vehicle longer than any other one I’ve ever had. All through hard work almost have it paid off. I was a huge decision on my part. And I felt empowered.
Some decisions we have to make come from negative emotions. Fear of the future, fear of failure or success, sadness for the past and sometimes guilt and regrets and anxiety.
I always try to remember what is the middle of anxiety. I right? I being anxious about myself. No one is to blame but me.
You may be thinking how are you supposed to deal with all the emotions and understand what do you need to learn from the situation all at the same?
Know yourself. You are not your situation. Pause and reflect on who you are set aside from your situation, what do you like, what don’t you like, what do YOU want, what could you accept, and what couldn’t you accept.
Respect yourself. Once you know who you are and what you like and don’t like. Learn where your boundaries lay. Act according. Always think, who you are and how will this will impact your life. Will it take you closer to where you want to be or to the person you want to become.
When I am in a situation and I don’t know what to do. I ask God, what do you want to teach me through this situation? What do you want me to learn? If you think about it that way, any situation you are in will help you learn what you need to through what you are going through.
Be compassionate with yourself. Instead of beating yourself up choose forgiveness, and decide what you can do different next time. Instead of being your worst judge, learn from your mistakes and try again in a different way. It was explain do me. That every situation is a mountain every time the same situation comes around it’s like running around a mountain. How many times are you going to have to run around the same mountain before you learn the lesson.
Check reality. When do you feel like you are not enough like you are a failure, or like you just too afraid to try, ask yourself what is the evidence of that and who says that? If the answer is you’re the only one saying that, look at yourself and the situation from a different perspective. We all have tough situations in our lives at one time or another. We have an opportunity to learn from everyone.
Be in the present. Despair and depression usually come from looking at the past, and the anxiety that comes from what is going to happen. When we focus on our past we relive the painful situation over and over and best ourselves up about it. When we focus on the future we worry about what’s not even happened yet. We worry about everything past and future. Worry about the present and the future will worry about itself. The past is gone there is nothing we can do about the past. Focus on what you have learned from your past and move on to the present situation at hand.
Think before acting it’s very difficult to be objective in an intense emotional state. We can become impulsive and tend to find quick solutions to our problems. They is a saying that goes ”Never quit on a bad day.” Avoid making important decisions on emotionally charged times. Think before acting.
Do what you have to do. If you want to see results you need to do the work. Be clear in your goals. Then commit yourself to do what you have to do every day, focus only on what you need to do at that present moment, knowing that next day, week or month you will also do what you need to do until you accomplish your goal, until you are on the other side of the difficult situation. The best way to move forward is to make sure you take each step.
The only impossible journey is the one you never begin.Tony Robbins