You know what that voice in your head always says. You can’t do it. You’ll never be good enough. You’re going to fail. Over and over. The same voice.
The voice taunts you whenever you set a goal. It criticizes you when life gets difficult. It eats you down when you struggle to stand up against it’s repeating commentary.
You know you shouldn’t let self-doubt bother you, but it’s a sneaky little creature. Sometimes, you just can’t contain it and it slips past your barriers.
We all have that voices that were trying to keep under control.
And self-doubt is greedy. When it’s loose it devours your confidence, strips logic. And reason from your mind, and steals happiness form your heart. In return it leaves you with only fear and insecurity.
You try to remove self-doubt by forcing yourself to think positive, which doesn’t work as well as you think it should.
The more you fight self-doubt, the more it fights back. However, with self-knowledge and understanding, you can use self-doubt to your benefit.
A story about crushing dreams and being realistic. During my childhood I listened to a lot of music, it was the only thing I had to turn to during tough situations. At some point in my life I had decided that I wanted to become a professional singer. I could travel to different places and be an inspiration to people. But, there were always people telling me I couldn’t do it it was a unrealistic dream or that I was just plain stupid for wanting to do it.
As life goes, adults always seem right. And by adulthood my dream was snuffed out.
Singing is nice but not necessary. I’ll never be as good as real professionals anyway. All I ever did was sing along with songs on the radio, and took choir in school.
For years I stopped myself before I even tried because I was afraid.
I was afraid of what people would say. I was afraid that everyone would hate my voice. I was afraid of failing or messing up on the notes.
When fear grabs you, your dreams feel forever out of reach. But it doesn’t stop there. If left unchecked, the infectious bite of fear and self-doubt can spread. You unconsciously start questing your knowledge and abilities in everything you do. And if your like me I desperately looked for a cure.
One day I realized that try g to beat out my self-doubt wouldn’t rebuild my confidence.
If I wanted to believe in myself, I needed to face my self-doubt and be willing to take care of it. I began looking at self-doubt head on. If the self-doubt was there I was going to ignore the sneaky little critter, and take on what I wanted to do.
I had imagined this sneaky little green creature running around in my head sucking all my hopes and dreams out of me.
My dream of being a professional singer took second place. Now I sing in the choir at the church and sing karaoke.
Life happened and I moved on, but I never gave up on singing.
Actually, that little creature was a fearful, angry, and lost creature crying for help.
Like fear, joy, and sadness, doubt is part of human nature, and it needs understanding. If you want to improve yourself, you need to tame your self-doubt not fight with it.
This means paying attention to how you react to things, understanding the root of your insecurities, and take steps to address your fears one by one.
Self-doubt doesn’t have to be as monstrou. As we make it out to be. It’s all about perspective.
Identify and ease your doubts.
Learning how to recognize when your self-talk takes a turn for the worse is crucial. When you hear yourself saying I can’t or don’t know how or what if a red flag should be up.
Instead of telling yourself, I can’t say I can’t yet but I’m working on it.
Or if you start wondering would if I fail say then I’ll try again.
Doing this transforms a negative situation into an opportunity for growth. In the end, it’s about giving yourself a chance.