It’s what we see and how we interpret it- every adversity, every failure, and every heartache carries with it a seed for a greater benefit.
When was the last time you experienced a negative situation? Recall the situation as best you can and how you responded to it. Did you get caught up in negativity or we’re you composed? Can you see how the worry and anxiety draws you into negativity?
It’s only normal to be negative when a situation spirals out of control when we least expect it. A bunch of negative thoughts emerge and we find ourselves unable to break free from it. Our mind have an inherent negative bias. It has be a mechanism that has helped people evolve for thousands of years. However, it can become a hazard when it works against us.
Perception is everything because what you look for you will find. The power of free will means we can perceive something bad in a good situation and complain about it. Someone else will find the good in a negative situation and use it to their advantage.
What’s important is how we interpret what we see? Say someone took the last donut who was raised to leave the empty box on the table. You were raised to ask if anyone wants to split the last donut before you take off with the last on. Instead of focusing on the disappointment of the lack of junk food, try to find a positive. Since you missed the donuts today, buy the box of donuts tomorrow for work and grab the first one. Even if you have to stash it away for break time. Or treat yourself to an ice cream cone on the way home from work.
Life is Neither Fair or Unfair
We encounter many defeats in life. But you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, and what you can rise from and how you can still come out of it.
Has something ever happened to you where you were innocent and though you tried to rectify the situation it was of little help? This is when we may succumb to negativity because we have been wronged against. However, we have a choice and it may not be the easiest one to may, but it is the better choice for our peace of mind. Anger and negativity reinforce a despairing mindset because we feel transgression is perpetrated intentionally. Bad thing happens to good people sometimes. Equally, people believe life is unfair. Life is neither fair nor unfair, it beats on regardless of how much you try to change nature. We are not insignificant in the scheme of things. Rather things are bound to happen, it is not the situation that fuel our suffering but it choosing to respond that dictates whether we remain at peace or get caught up in the storm.
The question we ought to ask ourselves is: What do I need to learn from this situation? How can I evolve from what is taking place?
We can win every time when we remain positive in negative situations because life will pull us into disrepair given the chance. Everyone will tell you how difficult life can be but rarely do we hear stories of life being filled with joy and happiness. Even on social media it has become an outlet for moral outrage and injustices. But that doesn’t help anyone other than pulling us into hopelessness because we are drawn to a false sense of injustice in the world. What you read is bound to create your reality and for many social media is their only source of information. Make your source of information come from real truth. Not fiction.