Before you try to conquer the outside world you have to master the inner world of your mind.
You might have some awesome goals like I want beach front property. I want to help hurting people.
That’s no problem, the enemy does not live in the outside world. It’s not money, people, or opportunity that is holding us back. It’s us.
Make sure your worse enemy doesn’t live inside yourself. It can come out when you don’t expect it at all.
All of the sudden, you have a true inner war on your hands. Why am I doing this? Is it really worth it?
There’s a war going on inside your head that most people aren’t even aware of. Were in a constant battle with ourselves.
You have to realize who’s in control of your life. It’s not the economy, your family, spouse, boss, or anything else you can possibly blame. This means one simple thing: This is your life own it. Never blame yourself, that’s what a Warrior does, Instead, fight your inner enemy by not giving up.
Know yourself, what makes you angry, sad, fearful? What are your decisions based on?
Have Zero Expectations.
One of our biggest causes of inner conflict is we have too high expectations.
We expect too much from our spouse, family, friends, co-workers, and even our boss.
But, that’s not the way the world works. You don’t control it. You only control yourself.
Never have high expectations for anything. You will only be disappointed. Instead, except nothing. Stop expecting your friends will always be there for you. You will always stay healthy, your family will always be with you. You will always make money.
Now you’re free. Everything you get is a gift.
You’re Not Perfect: Accept it
Never beat yourself up for making mistakes. Never beat yourself up over anything. Yes, we need to judge ourselves and try to do better. But don’t punish yourself for it.
This is life and life is unpredictable it makes no sense. Tho gs happen.
When you try to be perfect, you’re always at war with yourself. You will never be at peace. Nothing is ever good enough.
I have tried being the perfect daughter, the perfect wife, and perfect mother. All It does is take away your peace. You will never get to enjoy life for what it is. Even though it makes no sense, there’s still enough beauty in life. You just have to take off your blinders to see it. We need to get rid of that tunnel vision.
Always keep in mind that you’re worth more when you’re at full strength. Have you ever wanted to achieve something so bad that you put all your energy into it? You work hard you don’t sleep.
You might win a hard battle, but not the war. Life is a long time. Don’t burn yourself out before you reach the end. That’s self-sabotage Instead, save yourself.
Never Question Life
Instead of asking ourselves why is this happening to me. Ask yourself what can I learn from this?
I get it you work hard but nothing happens. You ask ”What am I doing this for.” No one reads your work, you’re never promoted at work. No one buys your product, no one hires you, no one cares.
Once you have one of those negative thoughts like that the floodgates will open, it’s the same of binge eating: It won’t matter if I have another cookie, you might as have eaten the whole dozen.
Don’t get down on yourself. There’s no point in doing that it’s not helping you.
Never question life. Never think about it. It’s a discussion you will never win. Avoid the war, not all wars can be won.
Believe In Yourself
How do you believe in yourself? You can’t say things like ”I’m the best, I’m the best.” to yourself if you don’t truly believe it. Deep down we always know that we’re lying to yourself.
Lying to yourself doesn’t help. Lying to others doesn’t help. We need to work and practice and see results and believe your abilities. Not putting In the work you will never develop any skills. There is no belief.
Work is where it all starts. There are no get to rich quick tactics. We all love fake promises because they distract us from reality. There’s no such thing as an overnight success. Even when people tell you to opt for the quick road pick the longer harder road to your destination.
Enter by the narrow gate, for the gate is wide and the way is east that leads to destruction, and those who enter y it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are fewMatthew 7: 13-14
I promise you will feel more fulfilled when you get there.
The lazy person is always looking for the next best thing.
Life is about the journey. That’s where you will find the blessings. No matter how hard it is.
Stop Making Assumptions
Never make conclusions based on assumptions. My father always said- never assume anything you will make a ass out of you and me. That great advice.
Always look at the facts. Don’t think you have the facts. Also ignore conventional wisdom. Most things you hear and read around you is not true or very subjective. Avoid inner conflict by looking at the facts always.
No matter what you do, never stand sit, staying still, the same thing as moving backward. Life doesn’t wait for you.
What does not move is dead.Robert Greene
You don’t become strong by ignoring your inner troubles. Your battles are not won on your smartphone. You fight by looking in the mirror.
Win or Die
The battles you fight within yourself are very real if you arm yourself with the right strategies, you will win.
Why should you fight? Napoleon Bonaparte said it best: ”Death is nothing to live defeated is to die every day.” You will never be defeated as long as you keep fighting.