Most people focus on what they want instead of what they have. It doesn’t make any difference how much we have, we just keep expanding our list of wants. Which guarantees we will remain dissatisfied. The mindset that says “I’ll be happy when this desire is fulfilled” is the same mindset that will repeat itself once that desire is met.
I have a family member who found a house to buy, he said it was the perfect house, when he and his family started moving in he was saying he wanted something even bigger. He isn’t alone many people want the same thing. They want this and that. If they don’t get it they keep thinking about all they don’t have- they remain dissatisfied.
If we do get what the we want, we simply re-create the sam thinking in our new circumstances. So despite getting what we want, we still remain unhappy. Happiness can’t be found when we are yearning for what we can’t have.
When we can change the emphasis of our thinking from what we want to what we have. Rather than wishing our partner was different, try thinking about their wonderful qualities. Instead of complaining about your salary, be grateful that you have a job. Rather than wishing you were able to go on a vacation to the ocean, think of how much fun you have had close to home. Each time you notice yourself falling into the “I wish life were different” trap, back of and start over. Take a breath and remember all you have to be thankful for.
When you focus not on what you want but on what you have, you end up getting more of what you want. If you focus on the good qualities your partner has, they will be more loving. If you stop complaining about your job and focus on the good things about your job you’ll do better at your job and probably end up getting a raise.
Make a note to yourself to start thinking more about what you have than what you want. If you do, your life will start appearing much better than before. Perhaps the first time in your life, you’ll know what it means to feel satisfied.