In relation to forgiving others, two of the most important people who you can forgive are your mother and father. A bitter-root judgement is a judgement that a person makes at some times during their childhood against his or her mother or father, or caregiver. Many times it a subconscious judgement rather than a conscious one. It goes deep into his or heart, mind and spirit.
A root of bitterness comes from unforgiveness and can lead to resentment that defiles others, it comes from failing to secure God’s grace to forgive. Hebrews 12:15 says “See that no one comes short of the grace of God: that no root bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled.
These judgements are roots in the past and can influence your present and future. Then, because of the law of judgement, the one who judges at some point in his life sentences himself to do the very thing that he judges in his parents.
Romans 2: 1-2 says There fore you are inexcusable O’man, whoever you are who judge, for when whatever you judge another you condemn yourself. For you who judge practice the same things. But we know that the judgement of God is according to truth against those who practice such things.
Remembering how I judged my mother. I have seen this come true. I didn’t know why or how she could do the things she did, and I judged her harshly. I Not only judged her, I blamed her for everything wrong in my life. I would say “If my mother hadn’t done these things I would be in this situation. Yes I was emotionally hurt and suffer from nerve injuries from what she did but, she definitely not the cause of all my trouble. I was being Judged by God for my refusal to forgive her.
The judgements that we make in bitterness actually start a cycle that will cause us to fall into the same set of situations over and over until we deal with our root issues in our lives. Our merciful, Heavenly Father does this because sin, when it is full grown brings death.
The principle of releasing bitter root judgements is one of the most powerful truths I have learned in my own Christian walk. Anytime there is an unreasonable situation surrounding me, I always check to see if I have a root of bitterness.
Bitter root judgements are much more powerful than what counselors call “psychological expectancy.” This occurs when people are hurt enough through authority figures and expect all other authority figures to treat them the same way. The leaders can be defiled and even against their will, start to treat the person just like all the other authority figures in their past.
Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.Proverbs 4:23