People who feel sorry for themselves are miserable, and there’s no need to be miserable.
A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit. (Proverbs 15:13)
We have all wallowed in self-pity or known someone that has. We think that of everyone we know, we are the most miserable. Our circumstances are bad. Everyone hates us. We can never do anything right.
Thinking and feeling like this makes us miserable. It’s selfish and wrong. What makes us think we are the only ones who have ever suffered? Deep down we know that not everyone is against us. Even if that were true, God is for us. Self-pity shown a lack of trust in God.
I had a counselor that once told me I was allowed to have a 10 minute pity party a week. And then to move on with my life. I thought what good is this going to do. But, after about a month of doing this. I realized how I was making myself miserable. And stopped having them all the together.
Before you start feeling sorry for yourself remember that the condition is common. There was a time when the prophet Elijah told a God that he was so bad off that he would rather die than live. (Kings: 19)
God responded by reminding Elijah that God was still with him and that things were not as bad as Elijah made them sound.
Sometimes our self-pity comes from jealousy. We see wicked people prospering and getting away with doing wrong. Remember God sees all and in the end they will not get away with anything.
In Psalms it says “I envied the arrogant when I saw the prosperity of the wicked. They have no struggles; their bodies are healthy and strong.” (Psalms 73:23-28)
When David in Psalms realized that the wicked would be punished eventually and that God was with him, he recovered from his self-pity.
Yes, I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand…it is good to be near God. (Psalm 73:23-28)
The Prophet Jonah feel sorry for himself when God showed mercy to sinners.
God responded, “Have you any right to be Angry?”
God had given Jonah chance after chance. But Johan god mad when his enemies received second chances.
The cure for self-pity is looking inward. It’s not all about you or me. Self-pity is, at it’s heart self-centered. Also quit looking around at others. Someone else always has it better and someone else always has it worse.
Psalm 37:1-2 says Do not fret because of evil men or be envious of those who do wrong; like the grass, they will soon wither…
God will take care of everything eventually.
Rather than looking inward or outward, we should be looking upward. This is the only way to rid ourselves of self-pity and be truly happy.
Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. (Psalm 37:3-4)