Whenever people struggle with personal change such as trying to be more assertive, happier or just more comfortable with driving on major freeways when traveling. Here are some ideas:
There are all kinds of way out there for making specific changes. There are a huge choice of diet programs and an overwhelming number of approaches to reduce anxiety but no matter what they are you still need to face your fears. You must confront the parts of yourself that you wish would disappear.
Facing the parts of yourself that you don’t like, or are afraid of, is one of the most difficult tasks you will do. I was at a time in my life when I fearful of standing up and talking in front of a crowd.
On day my pastor asked me to get up and tell the church my testimony. At first, I said no. But then someone told me a great tip. When I’m up there speaking don’t look at their faces look at the top of their heads, not their faces. I spoke that day doing this and it was easy. I was so proud of myself that I did it. Now I can stand in front of any crowd and speak with no fear.
Facing that pain by really feeling it without denying or numbing yourself shows courage, and if you can feel compassion and offer forgiveness to those parts of you (despite a strong desire to turn away), you will come to accept and care from them. As you would take care of a distressed child. Just as the distressed child is soothed by a comforting response. So too, are those parts of yourself. Getting to know yourself and approaching yourself the compassion with self-awareness.
You can become more accepting of yourself you will be able to tolerate the discomfort that comes along with change. In the end, you will be proud of yourself for standing up to your fears.