Want to get out of your safe cocoon but don’t know where to begin. The hardest part is taking the first step.
It’s so much to stay within the boundaries of where you are comfortable that it is to face the fear of going beyond them.
By limiting yourself to what you already know, you’re really missing out on some great opportunities, life experiences, and personal growth.
Individuals say to me, how do you do things with no issues? Whatever situation or the activity comes up, your ready to jump in there. I tell them Oh believe me there was time I would say no to everyone or everything that came my way.
Here are some simple steps you can take each day to push your limits.
Take the first step
In theory, all you need to do is to take the first step. It will be difficult. The first day is the worst. The opening line of your story can take a long time. But as you gain momentum, it gets easier to keep moving.
Put yourself in a new environment
It’s best to begin with small changes that will not present any real threat like eating at a different restaurant in a different part of town. Try attending a gun show or art exhibit. The idea here is to place yourself in a new area where you can control the situation. I remember I started getting myself out there by going to a conference on mental health for the weekend. I huge step, I was 150 miles away staying in a hotel with a lady that I didn’t know very well. It was a huge step, that didn’t turn out very well. I ended up having a horrible panic attack at the banquet because their we’re about 300 people in one room.i ran out in the hall and just began to shake life a leak. Sobbing horribly not even able to breath. I have no control over anything there, I couldn’t head to home because we brought the other ladies car. Until it was over I was a mess. I managed to get my licence to facilitate a group to help people handle just what I had been dealing with. And become all the stronger for it. If you don’t think your able for a big change all at once start slower. I like to start big and get it over with. Some people it works for and others it doesn’t.
Don’t pick a safe place
Every time you’re making a choice, one choice is the safe/comfortable choice and on choice is the risky uncomfortable choice. The risky/uncomfortable place is the one that will teach you the most and make you grow the most.
Take a different route home
If you drive or walk a different route, you will see different things. In a small way, that increases your view of the world. That is an easy way to start. After that make more drastic changes. Eventually, you will feel comfortable thinking out of the box.
Make snap decisions
It doesn’t have to be a life or death decision. Anything from choosing a restaurant to shopping. Just make a choice that’s unusual for your routine without overthinking it.
All of those things may seem daunting, flip a coin. I’m serious. Flip a coin over the decision and stick to it. Some people do it all the time and they end up glad that they did.
Eliminating the need for mulling over a decision boosts the process of stepping out of our comfort zones. Plus snap decisions install a feeling of self-trust.
Say ”yes” more often
Saying yes even when you don’t think you’re ready. If you are working, say yes to new projects, new assignments, new roles even when you have not done it before. It opens up huge opportunities in your career. Who knows you might find yourself enjoying something you never got the chance to explore earlier.
Preferably, make it a learning experience. Pick something you’re unfamiliar with and soak up everything you can while also making yourself useful.
I am big on volunteering. I volunteer for a Veterans Organization. I wasn’t sure of doing this at first. But then I got the opportunity to be President for a year. I didn’t choose to be in this position but, rather it was forced on me when the President resigned mid-year. It was a lot of work, but I learned a lot and smarter when it comes to the brave soldiers in our country. I’ve volunteered at a drug addiction recovery center. First it was going to a group and sharing my experiences and listening what others were sharing. Then it eventually began with volunteering at a store that funds rehabilitation for them people. I volunteer at my church once a month. Doing these things help me not to overthink my decisions and past. It keeps me pretty busy and I love it.
Do what you’re afaid of
New mindset. It goes like this. Does this scare me? Then I have to do it. That’s how you conquer fear. It never goes away. You just learn how to ride the energy.
Create challenges to push yourself in areas you want to improve on
Decidecacfew challanges and their triggers for yourself designed to push you outside of your comfort zone in areas you want to develop.
Next time you see someone your attracted to go up and talk to them.
Next time you go buy a cup of coffee or anything else ask them for a discount since your there every day.
Next time you make eye contact with a stranger keep looking at them until they look away.
Next time someone asks you how you are respond by saying you are doing great instead of saying just good.
Just focus on your triggers and don’t make any excuses. It’ll become a habit after a while.
Remember tomorrow is a new day. It helps us remember that what doesn’t kill us generally makes us stronger. You will survive, you will heal, you will learn something, you will have a better chance of emerging unscathed next time.