A few years ago my life was missing something. I could never pin point exactly what is was. I was constantly asking myself “Is this It? Isn’t there more to life than this?” I was lonely and I felt like everything I did was useless. What was the point to it all?
I was considered successful in the eyes of other people. I was married, had two beautiful children, a nice car. I felt guilty and ungrateful and was even thinking about ending my marriage and walking away from everything. Even thought so many other people would do anything to be where I was.
But, I couldn’t keep pretending that everything was okay because it wasn’t. In my heart I knew something was missing. But I didn’t know exactly what the something was. I knew I couldn’t live like I was living, I was unhappy.
I the years that followed, I learned how to create a life filled with purpose, happiness and how to make a meaningful impact in the world.
Today I’m going to share some ways to tell if you’re not living a purposeful life.
You’re not waking up excited in the morning.
If you’re not excited or at least enthusiastic in the morning- then you’re most likely not living your highest purpose. If you wake with the feeling of having to do this again today, that’s probably a sign the you’re off purpose. When you’re living on purpose, you wake up excited in the morning because a personally excited life awaits you.
For the last 40 years I have looked in the mirror and asked myself, “If today was the last day of my life, would in want to do what I’m doing?” And too often my answer is “No” So I knew I had to change something.
You have really high highs and really low lows
If you can’t seem to break feeling absolutely phenomenal for a few days and then really crappy afterwards. You’re most likely not living in alignment with the purpose of life. If you can notice a pattern of thinking how amazing life is one week, and how horrible it is the next. That’s probably a sign you’re off purpose. When you’re Living on purpose, you still have highs and lows but your happiness becomes sustainable.
I’ve always believed that a life of quality, enjoyment, and wisdom were my human birthright and would happen as time passed. I never suspected that in would have to learn how to live- that there were specific disciplines and ways of seeing the world I had to master before I awaken to a simple, happy uncomplicated life.
Your life isn’t entirely fulfilling you anymore
Despite knowing you have so much to be grateful for, deep inside there’s a feeling that there is more- them most likely you’re not connected to the meaning of life. If your doing a lot of things that society suggests are right but you still feel you’re off purpose. When you’re living on purpose your entirely fulfilled because you’re living a life engulfed in personal meaning.
Many people have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self- gratification but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.Helen Keller
You’re surrounded by people who are bringing you down
If you find yourself surrounded by people who are complaining, nagging, criticizing and condemning- then you’re most likely not living the purpose of life. If you don’t have a group of people in you’re life who’s qualities you admire, that’s probably a sign that your living off purpose. When your living on purpose, you’re spending the majority of your time with people who inspire, empower and encourage you to be a better person.
You’re ignoring your dreams because you’re to scared to move on.
If you begin to fantasize about what you would do if you had more free time then you’re probably disconnected from the meaning of life. If there’s a ton of things you would rather be doing with your life, but haven’t found a way to muster up the courage to tell your family or friends your probably off purpose. When you’re living on purpose you’re spending your time with on what you love most in life. Whether your friends and family understand or agree with you or not.
If you deliberately plan on being less than you are capable of doing, then you’ll be unhappy for the rest of you’re life.
You’re working in a job that depletes you of energy
If the primary purpose of your job is to get a payment and there’s not much personal meaning in what you do, then your probably not living for your purpose. If you’re counting the days until the next 3-day weekend it probably a sign that you’re off purpose. When your living on purpose, you don’t just have a job but you have a calling. A job depletes your energy and a calling energizes you.
You feel stuck in the rat race, but don’t know the next step
If you’re in a state of thinking you’ll be “happier when” the next good thing happens and you’re not enjoying the journey then your probably not living a meaningful life. If your so focused on getting there that you’ve accepted being submerged in stress and anxiety as normal your living off purpose. When you live on purpose you’ve embraced that the priceless pleasure of life come from enjoying the journey on your way to a destination toward a meaningful life.
I was once a poster child for all of these mistakes, and probably more. I’ve felt the pain, but following the above signs I was able to escape it and find the purpose for my life.