A anonymous man once told me that “Being strong is not rewarded.” Women are expected to be vulnerable. Being strong means that your bitter or jaded about something, and that’s just not attractive.

Hears what being a strong woman means tome. It’s standing up for yourself. It means that we’re full- functioning human, one who is independent and able to do things for herself. It means that I have opinions and beliefs that I stand for, and that I do not settle for less.

It doesn’t mean we do not ask for help. I do, asking for help doesn’t mean your weak, it means I am able to acknowledge that I’m not a super woman, and that I’m going to need other people sometimes.

Being Strong doesn’t mean that I close myself off from others or act like I’m better than them. I’m always striving to be better, live better, love better which is about me rather than anyone else. It doesn’t mean that I force my beliefs down anyone’s throats, or judge them for how they think. It doesn’t mean I’m inevitably bitter or jaded. It fact a strong woman is a woman who loves herself and her world and is therefore positive, loving, and self-assured.

To be a strong woman simply means that I am grounded and confident in who I am.

There is a misconception about strong women: that we are difficult to love. But all in reality, it’s the complete opposite. Strong women are the best women to love. We are the women with fierce compassion. We know who we are and we’re not afraid to embrace that. We love wholeheartedly because we love ourselves and we are not looking to better ourselves, but our partners, our worlds.

If your a man who are intimidated by strong women, perhaps it is because you know this women will push you to be better, will make you see the world differently, and will challenge you.

This is the misconception about strong women: that we are difficult to love

Another misconception about being a strong woman is that we’re incapable of being vulnerable. The funny thing is: to be strong, you first have to be vulnerable. You have to look yourself straight in the eye and acknowledge all the parts of yourself that need improvement, all the parts of you that you try to hide behind a smiling face.

Vulnerability means being brutally honest with yourself; it means setting aside your pride and being open with someone and letting them in. Do not mistake independence and strength with an inability to let someone in. A woman that is confident with herself is a woman that will face love straight on.

She is woman that can be vulnerable in a relationship because she knows who she is. And she will let her significant other discover that person by peeling back those layers together.

The truth about being a strong woman is that the world sees us as a threat. We’re just simply too much, too intimidating, too jaded and miserable, and bitter. But we are none of those things. We are women with backbone. Women who aren’t afraid to b proud of ourselves in a world that might not always support us. Women who know the value of our vulnerability, our passion, our strength. And women who will fight anyone who dares say we should be any other way.