The Courageousness Of Accepting Things As They Are

It is only when we have the courage to face things exactly as they are, without any self-deception on illusion. That a light will develop out of events, by which the path to success may be recognized.

I Ching

One of the hardest things in life is to accept our misfortunes, our quiet times, our frustrations and our fears.

We’d all love to have only success, fun and happiness, wouldn’t we? We’d love to skip the sadness, the fear, the uncertainty.

But this is not how life works. Not all the time.

There are things we have to go through-to grow, evolve and shed layers to slowly unveil the core of who we truly are.

There are times we all fall on the ground and lay idle for a while.

How can you make peace with the heartache you feel right now or the frustration that’s in you heart without turning to run as fast as you can?

You do it with courage and heart.

You face whatever you have to face right now. Without trying to fix it. Without trying to change it. You just let it be.

Yes, it hurt. Oh how much it hurts. But you’re strong and soon it’ll hurt less and less. And in no time it’ll just be a flickering candle spreading light. No pain, no misery. Simply a beautiful reminder of what was once affecting you to the core.

When I was letting everything bother me, I was living a life of hell believing everything everyone said about me in the past. My mother’s words to me were cruel and belittling, my husband’s words to me about everything was my fault. Even my child’s words when she told me

It hurt me so, I began to put up a wall so I would stop feeling anything and began to just go through the actions without any emotion. But I could only do this for so long.

Soon I had no choice. I had to face reality. Why were they saying these things to me, why did my own mother say these things to me.

I reached a point where I couldn’t hide my feelings anymore. The wall I had put up began to fall.

I made the choice not to try and fix it anymore, but to have the courage to find out why it was happening, and as soon as I things started happening, options appeared, I made friends for the first time in my life. I had a support system in my life, friends, counselors, and even my son. I would have done things to change my life’s my son wasn’t there to push me at times.

I finally began to accept my reality. When you stop fighting, pushing, screaming, wishing and instead open your eyes to the power you nurture within.

Fighting reality, wishing yourself into a better future, past, present is easy and comfortable. Embracing what it is not.

Fighting your reality might give you instant relief, embracing it with courage will give you peace for life.

Whatever you are, whether you’re unemployed, pregnant, lost, depressed or simply stuck in a hole you can’t seem go crawl out of begin with acceptance of what is only then can you truly begin to change.

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