What you do always has a stronger impact on what you say.
So many times people will say one thing and then do another.
I’m sure many of us have heard the quote: ”put your money where your mouth is.” people are more likely to believe what you do rather than what you say.
I’ve had a few relationships where I’ve bought into the fact that could believe what they said because I cared for them to much. I’m sure it’s very common and it’s a good way to get hurt.
It is much easier to lie with your words than with your actions because what you do more strongly correlates with what you want and what you believe. You can say anything without believing strongly in it.
It’s an important axiom for parents who much remember that they lead by example. Children are more prone to feel allowed if the parent tells them not to do it.
People believe what you do more than what you say.
The proverb is more than 100 years old. Some of the first expression of it is found in the Bible. Including the verse of John stresses that saying you love someone is not the same as doing things for them
My little children, let us not love with word or with tongue, but in deed and truth- John 3:18
In the 1500s the French writer Michel de Montaigne said: saying is one thing and doing is another.
An Englishman J. Pym once said:
A word spoken in season is like an Apple of Gold set in pictures of Silver, and actions are more precious than words.
In modern-day, this phrase is used to get people’s actions to line up with their words.
For example, consider this dialogue between a father and his child,
Child: I promise I’ll be on times for dinner, and ill di my homework as soon as I get it.
Father: Well, that sounds great, but actions speak louder than words. I’ll believe it when I see it.
As I spoke of relationships before, it is a common warning when he/she says they love you but don’t back it with their actions.
The proverb actions speak louder than words reminds us that what we do has more significance than what we say.