Learn to treat people, not as bad as they are, but as good as you are. And in doing so you might become the first person in these people’s lives who treated them with love, dignity and respect each Human Being deserves to be treated.
It really does not matter what other people say and do. All that matters is what you yourself, say and do.
That’s all that truly matters.
I will share with you a list of things that are meant to inspire and empower you to treat people as good as you are.
Treat People With Love.
Don’t Fight People
Don’t resist them when you resist not only does it persist, but it grows in size.
I know we are living in a crazy time right now. This is not advice if you are being attacked or threatened. But, in everyday circumstances.
Just offer them love, have you even seen someone at the store and they are acting in a way that you find annoying. Many would say something under their breath. Would if you asked them how they were doing or just said hello.
That act of kindness may be the only act of love they will ever experience.
Treat people with dignity and respect
Be an example for others. Treat everyone with the dignity and respect each human being deserves to be treated, even if those people behave nothing like a human being. Never respond to darkness with more darkness.
Never go down to their level
There are people who will try very hard to pull you down to their level and have you dwell in the same misery they are in.
To many that sounds tempting to share in a pity party. It may make you feel better for a minute but, don’t accept their invitation. You should never go down to their level, that is a very dangerous place to begin.
Treat people with kindness
Be kind to people without expecting them to be kind in return.
Through you kind words and behaviors let them feel what it truly means to be and act like a human being.
Help them feel loved.
Help them feel seen.
Help them feel safe.
Help them feel human.
Acknowledge their pain
We pass by one another every single day, we no longer see each other. And it’s worse when we have to wear a mask that covers your face. We no longer see one another as human beings who are worthy of receiving each other’s presence, and affection.
This has created a deep wound in all of us.
And while some of us are better at dealing and at healing this wound, there are people in this world who are in terrible pain. There are people who don’t know how to handle the pain and loneliness that comes from feeling unworthy, and from not being seen.
And the person sitting in front of you might be one of those people.
Today at the grocery store I was helping a man take his groceries to his vehicle and as I was bringing the cart back into the store this lady slammed the door right in my face. She didn’t see me behind her but as she looked at me when I entered right after her. She just glared at me. I said “hello how are you.” There was no response. We need to stop treating people that way.
Show genuine interest in them
Be fully present
Show people that you truly care.
Ask questions like “How are you?”
Become genuinely interested in what’s going on in their troubled minds and tormented hearts. And where possible, help them realize that the enemy isn’t out there but rather in them.
Hold your tongue
If the bad people in your life are not in a place where they can hear what you have to say, it is crucial that you hold your tongue and slowly walk away.
Don’t get caught up in their madness.
Offer them a silent blessing
The majority of people have no idea the harm they are doing, to themselves and the whole world by behaving the way they do. They are clueless, but we know better, and we can do much better. Offer the a silent blessing and let them be.
Silently thank them for the lesson
What is a good man but a bad mans teacher? What is a bad man but a good mans job? If you don’t understand this, you will get lost, however intelligent you are. It is the great secret. (Lao Tzo)
The truth of the matter is that we live in a world of duality, a world where, in order for the good to exist the bad have to be present also.
Even though we might not realize this now, we all need each other to continue our journeys- the good people need bad people, and the bad people need the good people- it’s all for the greatest good of all.
This is the great secret.
Life is a great lesson in forgiveness.
The more we forgive,the more we can love. And the more we can love the more we can forgive.