You can listen to you friends, your mentors, your teacher, and your spouse, even to the blogs you read. But you should always listen to yourself first.
Do what resonates with you. If you feel it’s right in your heart and soul do it.
Have the strength to say to yourself I’m doing what I’m doing. And that’s okay. You have to live with the choices you make, not them. My friends can’t give me permission to do something you thing is wrong. We have to come to a point where we know in our heart what has to be done.
This is not saying that support isn’t essential, but it is, it’s very essential to our well being. But support and advice are not the same things.
I listen to my friends and I ask them advice. But I always they are not me, feeling what I am feeling and not in my unique situations. Only I am me, and you are you. We can only make the best choices for ourselves.
I know people have told me to break up with my husband, you’re in a unhealthy relationship. But no one can make that choice for me. As it is I’m content where it’s at, it might not be right for everyone, but it’s right for me. I know how to listen to the depths of myself.
We need to feel it for ourselves. It needs to be time for us, and when it’s time it’s something we know. We can listen to others, but that listening won’t mean anything until something inside of us shifts. We hear a story or have an experience, and in that moment something inside of us awakens, and we know the truth for ourselves.
Only when we know our own truth can we make the choices that are best for us. This is why when you make a decision and spend hours analyzing whether or not it was the right decision.
Only when we are in alignment with our deepest self can we make choices that we know are what we need in that mom and live with them without second guessing. We can acknowledge our hearts desire that things could have turned out differently, but that desire doesn’t inform our decision. We acknowledge it for what it is; a desire, a yearning for control. And we are able to choose what’s best for us.
A lot of people get confused about whether or not that are doing the right thing, making the right choice, doing what’s best. When we feel that confused it’s a clear sign we’re out of balance, we’re to much in our own heads.
We want to have more clarity, more ease with our decisions, more confidence. To have those things mean that we need to do the daily work. We need to heal ourselves. We need to balance ourselves. We need to restore. We need to learn the difference between our ego and our authentic self. We need to know the difference in order to be able to live in accordance with our soul. We need to know how to be who we really are, how to live our healthiest lives, and how to put ourselves back on track when we slip off.
And that comes with knowing yourself. It come from exploring and experimenting and listening deeply to the voice inside, the voice that’s always been there patiently waiting for you to listen to it.