Why is being different a good thing? Become if you want to actually turn a dream into reality, you have to be a little different. If you want to change something in your life then you have to change the way you approach it, you have to think a little differently, act a little differently and just be a little different.
I used to think I was born to be alienated by the world around me, I felt from an early age I was different. In school other students and teachers didn’t want anything to do with me. The teachers would sit me in the back of the room, I didn’t have any friends, until high school and then my friends we outcasts ( people that were shunned for the way the acted) but at least we had each other.
If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gottenTony Robbins
After height school and everyone got married and moved away. I tried to fit in, doing what everyone else did and trying to act their way. That didn’t last very long. I began to think I was actually born on another planet. Everyone avoided me like the plague.
Later I discovered i had talents, back then I would have never even thought that I could write, I had always wrote short stories once in a while. But never being to help people with it. I learned to embrace being different.
If you keep doing and thinking what everyone else does, then you’re going to continue getting what everyone else has. I sure didn’t want other people had, I had different dreams. There’s a popular quote that’s floating around attributed to Einstein that says the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Even though Einstein didn’t actually say that, it’s a valid point; if things aren’t working for you you’ve been doing, then maybe it’s time to start doing them differently. I learned it this way if you keep running around the same mountain over and over, there’s something your not doing or learning.
The Magic of Possibility
When you make it a point to start , thinking and being different, you’re giving yourself permission to explore. There comes a time when you have to start being your self and enjoy it. Pushing the boundaries of that safe little comfort zone you’ve created for yourself and expanding your horizons. You’re giving yourself the gift of the unknown, the unusual, and unexpected. And anything can happen.
So long I’ve just went with the flow, because I didn’t want to stand out. I knew I was different from everyone and I was not comfortable being like other people.
This is important to think about, we are beginning a new year. A New Year of endless possibilities. Look over the months ahead, do you want to be the same as you are? Trying to fit in. There is a magic to being different. And feeling like you have nothing to hide, you can actually be yourself, it’s up to us to take the potential of possibly and transform it into reality.
Beyond The Fear
So how do we do that? How do we just be different! We can start by allowing ourselves to be who we are rather than trying to make ourselves fit into the box called labeled “ What everyone else think we should be. We do it by taking deliberate conscious step to try new things and embrace new ways of doing things, even when they scare us or we’re not sure that we can do them.
I started by setting my own boundaries. Telling my husband this is what I want to do and be. I was ready for a argument. I wanted to be a person, that was there for people. I wanted to help the elderly, the soldiers, the be a Bible believing Christian. At first he complained when I wasn’t at his beck and call. All I knew is I didn’t want to clean house and cook for the rest of my life. I knew there were didn’t things I wanted to do.
I’ve tried painting, making things out of clay, it didn’t bring me joy so I stopped, I tried being in the Choir at church, nope not for me. I found out what I truly wanted for my life to be full and feel that void I felt. I chose to help soldiers and disabled Veterans, help individuals recovering for drug abuse and writing. It may not work for some but it works for me. I am full and happy, happier than I’ve been in years.
Obviously, if everything in you is screaming NO! then trust your instincts and don’t. But if there’s anything in you that thinks that particular “something new” that you’ve been contemplating sounds exciting, inspiring, fun, or otherwise positive, then work path your fear and give it a go; it might just be the best thing you do for yourself this year.
Trust The Whispers
There is always a election of risk in making life changes, in crafting a vision and building a dream. Taking something out of the realm of fantasy and turning it into reality requires looking past everything you’ve been taught, ignoring what everyone else does and or tells you to do, and trusting that little whisper within that tells you it’s time to expand and grow. And it requires a certain amount of bravery and daring to do that.
I’ll tell you a little episode that happened to me a few years ago, my dear husband has always picked my vehicles as well as my father. I was scared to tell them what I really wanted. A few years back, I told my husband I wanted to trade my car in. Well, of course he told me no, that I owed to much money on it. I was at the dealership getting my car serviced. I found a vehicle I really wanted, I could either want and discuss it with him. (I knew how that would out. So I traded it in. When he got home from work there was a shiny new SUV in the drive way. To my surprise he didn’t yell, or complain he just told me it was ugly. I was full of fear, but I did it anyway. The feeling like I was in control of something felt good.
Take The Risk
You have to be willing to be different and move out of your comfort zone. You have to risk being seen and attracting attention. That’s really hard for a lot of people. Myself I hated attracting attention, I would have rather be unseen. There is safety in just being just another one of the flock after all. But you’re not a sheep; your a uniquely talented individual with a wealth of experience, insight, and strengths. And it’s time to bring those gifts out and share them with the world. It’s time to let yourself shine and embrace the idea of being different, being you.