Two Things Prevent Us From Living In Happiness. Living In The Past, And Observing Others.
Living in the past: when we spend too much time thinking about what we did do or wishing that we hadn’t done. Or focusing on how things did not go the way we wanted them to. I know for me some certain thoughts or triggers bring up the past. Things I wished I did but didn’t. It’s funny how you go back and think of what you should have said or done and dwell on it for days or hours. Why, when you can’t do anything about it. Like if someone is talking about their mother, or someone asks about mine.
It just keeps us stuck in the past unable to move forward. I have learned to practice mindfulness. It teaches you to be in the present moment and over time you spend less time thinking about the past. Rehashing, I for one am guilty of this. We spend so much of our mental energy on our past. Think about all time you would free up by being mindful and the stress you wouldn’t have.
Observing others: trying to keep up with the Joneses. We try to be like everyone else. What they have they have, and what you have you have. Stop trying to be like everyone else and be yourself. We all want to be successful and happy but, we won’t get it is like someone else. We get it by being ourselves. Don’t spend your time watching everyone else spend you time on being a successful happy you. No faking or imitating others. Just because it worked for them doesn’t mean it going to work for you in the same way.
We can be our own worst enemies when it comes to finding happiness. Overthinking and rehashing thing from our past. Comparing ourselves to others and the judging ourselves for not being at that same level. We are too hard on ourselves. Healthy competition is fine, using some one else as a goal post to strive towards in good. However we need to recognize that what’s right for someone else might not be what’s right for you.
It’s time to stop getting in our own way and preventing ourselves from finding the happiness we all want.