This world could benefit greatly from more kindness and compassion, because we live in egocentric times. Nice people bring so much light into the dark places of this world, helping to elevate the vibration of the earth. However sometimes kindness and care can be taken to the opposite end of the spectrum, where it becomes almost self-destructive rather than helpful.
You should care about others, of course but, not when it comes at the expense of your own well-being and happiness.
Here are some signs you care just a little to much.
#1 People take advantage of your compassion and kindness too often. The moment you start putting other’s needs above your own, people will start to notice, and expect the royal treatment from you at all costs. Having a backbone doesn’t mean you don’t have sympathy for others; it means you have struck a perfect balance between looking out for people while also taking care of your own needs. It’s okay to say no sometimes if you feel overwhelmed or simply don’t agree with others- you have every right to stand up for yourself without being labeled as cruel and unfeeling.
If you don’t think your opinion or well-being matters, people will start to treat you like a doormat. If you don’t believe in your worth, people will walk all over you.
#2 You put everyone else’s needed above your own. Perhaps this is the most draining and saddening aspect of being a truly kind-hearted person. Some people will only see you as a means to an end, or a tool in order to fulfill a goal in their storybook if you continually give them the idea that you’ll do anting for them at any cost. Being nice sometimes feels more like a curse than a blessing, but remember that people cannot take advantage of you unless you allow it to happen.
Make sure you set clear boundaries with people and let them know when they have crossed the line. You can learn how to say no without coming across as rude and uncaring, after all, if you don’t look our for yourself, who will?
#3 You don’t give yourself enough self-love. When you devote all of your time to caring for others, you might pass yourself up for a good dose of TLC. Make sure to let others know when you just can’t pencil something into your schedule; only commit to obligations the you feel certain you can follow through with. You deserve just as much love and attention as you give others; in fact without enough self-care, you can easily fall into a state of disarray and depression.
Spend time helping others, but don’t forget to take care of yourself too. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and attention.
#4 You Attract needy, desperate people into your life. Remember that in the universe, like attract like, so not surprising, being overly nice will attract those who seek attention from others. In a way, becoming a doormat for others is selfish, because deep within, you look to others to fill a void that you have not filled yourself. You have not discovered your own self-worth, so others can’t possibly recognize it, either.
Be sure to spend time developing yourself and practicing assertiveness when you need to; this way, you can’t start attracting people who are also kind-hearted, but don’t demand your love and attention.