Many people want to change their life for some reason or another. We want to turn it ask around and ooze with smooth confidence while they have an impressive job, expensive car and a great partner, and a dog.
When most people’s eat out to change their lives, they often focus on all the external stuff, but in reality we need to change how we see everything in our lives.
Here are some ways you can start changing your life right now:
1. Do something. Anything.
A lot of us get stuck when we try to change our lives because we don’t know where to start or what to do. There is a simple answer: do something anything, really.
The motivation to do anything- like change your entire life around doesn’t just come from some magical, mystical place with in you. Action is both the effect of motivation and the cause of it. You’ll figure out whether or not it’s right or not in good time, but only if you stop procrastinating and start engaging with the world.
2. Recognize That Everything You Do Has A Cost- Be Will To Pay it.
A lot of life amounts to a series of trade offs. Everything has an opportunity cost, and the big things we want in life like happiness and healthy relationships and wealth. They all have big opportunity costs. You don’t get to have the dream career at the top without putting in your time at the bottom, then taking a risk it ten and breaking a few hearts along the way.
The most important question you can ask yourself isn’t about what you want it’s about what you’re willing to suffer for. Doing what you love is not always loving what you do. Think about it do you really want that dream in the first place. Example: I decided when my children were young, that I wanted to go to college and get my bachelors in criminal justice. But I hadn’t thought about having to leave my children for two years to get my bachelors degree. I ended up graduating with an associated degree in science. Because I could not bear to leave my children. I had a dream of being a crime scene investigator. But I not willing to suffer the consequences.
3. Embrace The Fact That No One Gives A Hoot.
Look, I know you were told that you’re a special little snowflake in a sea of otherwise normal people, but the bad news is very few people actually care about you and that your special. To them you just a regular person, People are more concentrated on themselves to begin with. But before you take your back and hit the back bottom on your browser, I want you to consider just how liberating that is. I want you to consider just how liberating that is. No one gives a hoot. You are free to do you want to do and no one will care either way. If anything they will respect you for a few minutes and then go back to caring only about themselves.
Instead of basing all of your life decisions on what others think about you or what you do or how attractive you’ll appear in you new car, figure out exactly what it is you value most in your life and cut all the other stuff out.
4. Focus More On Habits, And Less On Goals.
A lot of books on self development advice focuses on goals and systems of developing like “SMART” goals are creating an unrelenting focus on accomplishing every singe goal you ever set no matter what your are. An unmotivated individual.
The truth is, in and of themselves, goals are pretty over rated. There is nothing wrong with having goals, but obsessing over them is counterproductive be, in reality, achieving a goal isn’t always what it cracked up to be. Instead, focus on creating heaven habits that focus on the most important, highest impact areas of your life. I found out my goals pretty much took care of then at that point. And It all happened when I decided to change the way I look at thing. I changed my perspective on the world and it made a huge impact on my life.