Raise your hand if suicide has touched your life. Has a friend, loved one you knew died by suicide? Or perhaps has died from suicides? Or perhaps suicedal ideation is something you deal with yourself.
Suicide Warning Signs:
The rate for suicide in America has grown 300% just in the last year.
- Talking about wanting to die or kill oneself.
- Looking for a way to kill oneself- such as searching online or strange buying habits.
- Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live.
- Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain.
- Talking about being a burden to others.
- Increasing alcohol or drug use.
- Acting anxious or agitated
- Behaving recklessly.
- Sleeping touch or too little.
- Withdrawing or feeling isolated.
- Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge.
- Losing interest in things or losing the ability to experiencing pleasure.
- Giving all their valuables away, for no reason.
How To Save A Life
Don’t be naive enough to believe anyone in your circle of influence has even been suicidal. You can’t help anyone in a crisis if you haven’t done your homework. It is one thing to educate yourself about how to handle a suicidal friend or loved one, but it is another thing to put that knowledge to the test.
When I was suicidal, my husband would always “What would the kids do without you?” it was what I needed at the time to change my mind.
When happens once you have identified a crisis? What steps do you take to intervene and help save a life?
Here are five steps to help someone who is suicidal:
Initiate A Private Conversation. This is not a conversation you want to have at Starbucks. Invite your friend or loved one to a quiet place where they will feel safe enough to share there story. They need to know you care and your feelings for them will not change because they are considering suicide.
Be an active listener. This is the time to use your best listening skills. You will hear things that mat shock you. That shock should never show on your face. You must remain calm. Be an active listener, so you can ask follow up questions to help gauge the urgency of the situation. It is important to remember not everyone experiencing suicidal thought is in immediate danger.
Once you have listened and assessed the situation, express your concerns. This is not the time to shy away from convert about your friend or loved ones suicidal ideation. Talking about suicide does not lead to suicidal completion. They may even feel relieved that someone cared enough to ask the question. Do not pass judgment or guilt-trip them. You will have better results if you make it clear that they have your complete understanding and support.
Encourage them to seek professional help. It is great you are supporting b your friend or loved one, but remember you are not a mental health professional. This is the time to suggest they seek professional help. The first step toward help is the hardest. You can make that first step a little less daunting by helping them schedule an appointment and offering transportation to the appointment.
If the suicidal ideation escalates, take action. Once you have concluded that there is an emergency, here are your next steps:
Stay with them (as long as you are not in any danger)
Help then remove lethal means.
Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text talk to the crisis text line at 741741. Help is available 24/7.
Bring them to the emergency room or call 91.
Do everything in your power to help your friend or loved one to get professional help, but remove yourself from any situation the endangers your personal safety.
I hope today’s post helps you internalize the importance of speaking up when you are face to face with someone who is contemplating suicide. It will not be an east convert, but it will be a necessary one.
Please keeps in mind that a suicidal crisis does not last forever. Your intervention can save a life. The person may be angry with you in that moments, but they will feel differently when the crisis is over, and they have received help.