There was a time I couldn’t/wouldn’t forgive anyone for anything they had done to me.
Then I learned the forgiveness is how God deals with mankind. He is not a grudge-holder, but a forgiving Father. Since we are His children, we should and can also be a forgiven. It’s for our ultimate benefit. Harboring Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. In reality we are killing ourselves slowly. It’s not hurting the one you’re holding a grudge against, it’s hurting you.
Unforgiveness is going against God’s principles. If we don’t choose to deal with people in the same manner God does (by forgiving), then we are disobeying His many admonitions to forgive outside His realm, so we can expect the result of that our lives. We can’t go against His nature (by harboring Unforgiveness) and expect His blessings to flow.
In other words, if we harbor Unforgiveness, we’re “clogging the blessing pipe.” All of Gods blessings belong to and are always flowing to us in Christ Jesus, (Ephesians 1:3) and He always loves us. (Jeremiah 31:3)
When we disobey His command to forgive, that clogs the pipe.
There is something standing between us and His blessings, and that thing is Unforgiveness. Unforgiveness puts us outside God’s promises.
One the other hand, when we do choose to forgive , we’re right there in His bailiwick. I know bailiwick is a funny word, but Webster’s dictionary defines it as “a special domain” or “a jurisdiction.” When we choose forgiveness, we’re right there with God and His domain, we’re in His jurisdiction, which means all that He is and all they He’s promised is available to us.
You could say He lives in “forgiveness land” where forgiveness is the way of life.
If we choose to keep Unforgiveness, then we’re out of His jurisdiction, out of the reach of His blessings and protection. I have been there and I don’t want to be there anymore. Do You?
I’m glad to live in God’s domain and receive His blessings. I’ve discovered that one of the req for living there is that I must also forgive, as He does. Ephesians 4:32 says it is the way; “Be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving one another, just as God also forgave you.
I don’t want to live in “grudge-holding land” because God is not there.
I choose forgiveness.
Matthew 7:1-3 “Judge not, lest you be judged.”