Our eyes don’t lie: they’re windows to the soul. They show the truth no matter what face you put on, in any situation. The best way to get to know someone is to look them in the eyes observe what they reveal about their emotional state
Our eyes, just like our body language, give us away, and they say more than we ever could with words. As a matter of fact, most of the information we convey is none-verbal, which ranges from simple looks to all of the movements we make.
Windows to the soul is another way of looking at each other
Studies have shown that when we meet someone for the first time, our eyes can convey a wide range of feelings: trust or distrust, security, contentment, fear, etc… We know this is true because it happens every day: it’s as if we were capable of transcending our bodily limits and reaching their soul through their eyes.
“The soul can speak through the eyes, and kiss with a look.” – Gustavo Adolo Be’cquer
Some experts, whose jobs require them to study faces, have observed that eyes are the window to the soul because they’re the most sincere part of the face. We don’t have any control over our eyes, as opposed to the mouth, for example: When you look at something, your pupils dilate involuntarily and give you away, and they contract as a sign of rejection.
The none-verbal language of our eyes.
Here’s a list of some of the information that eyes can convey:
Sadness. Through the windows of the soul, we can see sadness, one of the emotions we feel the most but often try to hide. In this case, the eyelids rise, as does the lower edge of the eyebrows.
Anger. When we get angry, our eyebrows arch and our expression is completely serious.
Uncertainty or Evaluation. When we listen to someone and narrow our eyes, we’re indicating that we’re either evaluating what they’re saying and doubting its validity, not we don’t understand what they’re saying. Half-closed eyes can also indicate tiredness.
Sexual desire or concentration. When we feel sexual desire or concentrate, the pupils dialate as I’ve mentioned before, which leaves us completely exposed to the other person. We cannot avoid it, so we usually rub our eyes because they get wet and we feel comfortable.
“They terrify me, weaken me, it kills me to know that your beauty is not in your eyes, but in the way, you look at me.” -David Sant
Social Faces. As I’ve talked about, the expression “the eyes are windows to the soul” is based on truth. However, it goes much further than that. A study was done by psychologists and other scientists from different branches of the study of human language, throughout our lives, up until we’re about 40 years old, were chosen from a series of faces that we adapt to different, distinct communicative situations.
This is called social face.
Example. In sad moments when we feel, the urge to laugh, our expression keeps its composure. On this subject, Teresa Bar’o said that this doesn’t mean we’re liars, since we live in a society that demands certain patterns of behavior that we must maintain as a manner of survival.
We are not liars because we can’t be. We can voluntarily make our facial expressions and movements more appropriate, but we can’t stop our eyes from reflecting how we feel.
“The worst way you can betray yourself is to not do the things that make your eyes shine.” -Anonymous