“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” -Carl Jung-
It took me years and a lot of reading to realize this quote was true. It just would sink into this thick skull of mine. I was in a really bad place when it did it changed my life.
Often people get very upset when you even suggest that what happens to them does not need to determine how they feel.
People tend to blame, people keep repeating what happened to them over and over in their minds. People keep reliving what made them feel bad.
As long as we focus on what we don’t want, the longer we will feel the negative emotion associated with those thoughts and the longer we will remain in that unwanted situation.
What you think, you become, What you feel you attract, What you imagine, you create.
This is the Mose powerful insight we can have:
What you think, you create
So why are we still thinking negative thoughts, about what we do not want, about what we do not like? Its a awful cycle to break.
The longer we keep focusing on the drama, as in thinking about it, telling people about it, hammering on the injustice of the situation the longer we will stay on the vibration and the longer we will keep attracting similar things.
I wise old soul once said to me “I don’t have to live the sins that others have done, you are not their sin. Stop living like it.”
The only way out of a negative situation is thinking about what you do want, how can we solve the problem.
If we’re focusing on solutions, we are on a very different vibration than when we are thinking about the problem itself.
It often seems like a thin line between thinking about the problem itself and thinking about solutions for that same problem.
But there’s a huge difference.
Reliving injustice by talking about it keeps you on a vibration which will attract more of that injustice. Focusing on what we want and how we can get out of the situation puts us on a vibration what we will find solutions.
We cannot create a positive future by focusing on negative things of the past and the present.
We need to focus on how we want our future to look like, to be able to actually create that future.
When we envision what we want. We understand that once we start living by this very simple but never easy-principle, we can always feel good. Accepting where we are right now and think about what we want are key elements to feeling good.
The only way to stop feeling bad, is to stop thinking about the things that made you bad. The only way to stop thinking about negative things, is to actively steer your thoughts to things you do want. But we need to practice everyday if we are going to change the cycle of negative thoughts.
The minute you feel your thoughts are slipping towards your dark place again, don’t get upset, don’t be hard on yourself because that would keep you on that cycle of feeling bad just acknowledge it and steer away from your dark thoughts.
You are the only one responsible for how you feel. You and you alone decide how you feel by steering your thoughts towards positive wanted thoughts and situations.
Even when you feel like no body cares or loves you, you care and love yourself, right? So you are always loved by yourself and the God who created you. It’s our own dark thoughts that make us temporarily blind for the love of others.
Do the things, think the thoughts, that bring you to the vibration of feeling good the more good things will come to you.