You can say that you’re a certain type of person, but if you don’t act like that type of person, no one is going to see you as that type. For example, you can say that you’re a gentleman, but if you use a lot of profanities, vulgar, and foul language or if you say a lot of inappropriate things or ask inappropriate questions early on even if you ask for inappropriate pictures to be sent to you before even meeting. People are not going to think that your have good manners, let alone consider you to be a gentleman. There is simply nothing gentlemanly about doing things like that.
Obviously, that’s merely one example. Another would be that someone may consider themselves to be giving, loving, and a warm person, but from theirs actions, they come across as cold, unaffectionate, or even distant in different ways.
My point is, you may see yourself as a certain way, or in a certain light, but in reality, if your actions aren’t aligned with your words, your not that way. Many people hope to become the best version of themselves, and believe in self-improvement, striving to be a better person each and every day. But just because someone has the desire, and that’s a really good thing, it doesn’t necessarily mean that a person is in fact who or what they claim to be.
Your actions and words need to be aligned. So just because you desire to be a certain way and you’re not that certain way, you’re basically lying to them, misleading them, and not acting as your authentic self.
I had a situation where a lady that had an entirely opposite outlook on life than me. Every time she sees me she follows me and it irritates the heck out of me. I am a loving caring person almost all the time.
There’s a quote that says “Some people will never like you because your spirit irritates their demons.” Well her demons irritates my spirit.
Your actions and words need to be aligned. Because you desire to be a certain way. When to tell someone that you’re a certain way you need to be that certain way.
It isn’t always fun being a certain way. But if you’re intentions are pure. Hold fast to your intentions.