Positive thinking is more than having an optimistic view. It’s seeing both negative and positive sides with a positive perspective.

Being positive is accepting reality, not realizing it.

What we think, we become.

Reality is not neutral. We are always passing judgment on what happens around us. You and si can face the same event, yet we will react differently – our thoughts shape our reality, not the other way around.

That’s why most people suggest we think positively – it has become an oversimplified approach to make us feel better,

“Be positive” can be terrible advice.

Telling someone who’s sad or depressed that positive thoughts will change their mental state, can be detrimental. Similarly, being overly optimistic can blind our reality.

I have to admit I am a overly positive person. I am able to see the good in every situation. The positive in everyone’s story. I had a very negative life for over 40 years. I am done feeling negative. There is always light in every situation.

Although Positive thinking is not what you think. We must embrace our whole self, not just the bright side,

The Color Of Your Soul

“The soul becomes dyed with the color of it’s thoughts

Marcus Aurelius

Our society loves black and white assessments – you are either an optimist or a pessimist.

Labels are a heavy burden, we get stuck in one place, rather the exploring our possibilities. Our self is fluid. We all have positive or negative thoughts or positive and negative moments.

Pretending to be happy all the time can be harmful. We focus on one aspect and fail to see out blind spots. Labeling oneself as a negative person doesn’t help either – we overplay our frames and become victims of self-pity.

I am not a negative person in so that I believe there is a reason for everything and a way out of every situation.

Research shows that optimists perceive less stress because either they are better able to cope with adversity or because of their positive views. However, when facing severe challenges, optimists suffer a lower immune response than pessimists.

Curiously, a strong bekifvib hope can make optimists think they can achieve anything they want to, just by trying hard. This perfectionist view can lead to unrealistic expectations – positive thinking can’t make everything come true.

I live by a quote by Martin Luther King. ‘ If you except nothing from somebody you will never be disappointed.” Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.

Micah 7:5 says “Put no trust in a neighbor, have no confidence in a friend; guard the doors of your mouth from her who lies in your harm. Don’t expect people to return the love and understand that you give them. Only God cares for your soul.

We are not our thoughts, because they are always changing. Understanding our fluid nature is critical to continue growing – we are a work in progress, not a finished product.

Bad thoughts are harmful – they create more suffering. However avoiding our negative emotions won’t make then go away.