I’ve spent most of my life chasing happiness.
I used to react to my negative feelings like a game of whack-a-mole pushing them down inside my soul as quickly as possible.
Eventually, I learned the truth about emotions. They are simply vibrations in the body caused by neurochemicals generated by our thoughts,
- My disappointment was not because I didn’t reach my goal.
- My frustration was not because I didn’t have enough hours in the day.
- My unhappy was not because I was missing something.
It was because my brain was offering me unhelpful thoughts that created those unpleasant feelings. When I really understood my emotions and what was causing them, it changed everything.
I learned how to process my emotions instead of judging and numbing then. I made space to feel them instead of resisting them. I was curious about how I was creating then instead of making them mean something was wrong with me. I stopped my numbing behavior like emotional shopping, or eating.
Feelings play a bigger role that you might realize. They are the drivers of our life.
Because when negative emotions are not the problem. Nothing hold your back and that’s true freedom.
Chasing happiness only leaves us feeling unhappier. Why?
Because there is a familiar feeling that accompanies chasing happiness. The chase for happiness, only makes you wanting more of that feel good feeling. And we end up feeling overwhelmed and anxious.
The pressure to be happy all the time can take a toll on us. Our brains tell us “try this, it will make you happy.” It’s like a vicious rollercoaster. The truth is we really don’t understand what happiness is. Societal misunderstanding have fed us a lot of pressure and anxiety surrounding discussions about happiness, so making happiness an end goal can leave us feeling frustrated and unfulfilled.
It results is chasing happiness out of our lives, instead of letting this blissful feeling in. We can be so busy looking for something else we don’t recognize when happiness hits. The societal misunderstanding are myth surrounding happiness that we have accepted for far to long.
Focus on what you have instead of what you don’t have. On what right in your world instead of what’s wrong. On where you’re going instead of what you’ve been through.