When you’re depressed you don’t always see tho gs accurately. Depression can feel like being smothered in a blanket, cut off from the rest of the world disoriented, and alone. When you’re depressed it’s easy to start believing things that you’d never believe when your well. It’s as if depression is sitting in your mind, telling you things that just aren’t true.
Here are some lies depression can tell you:
1. You’re All Alone. Depression thrives when you believe you’re by yourself. Sometimes this lie is phrased as “nobody cares” or “nobody understands” or “I have to cope with this by myself.” it tried to convince you that you’re completely isolated. What’s the truth? Unless you’re a hermit living in a cave in the middle of a desert, you’re not alone. You’re part of something larger. That might be your family, not an online community, or the people who live in your town, or even you’re friends. This might not mean everyone cares about your mental health but it means that you’re part of something bigger and that you’re connected to something.
2. Things Will Never Change. Depression doesn’t like to be challenged, and it stops you from doing so by telling you there’s no point and that your life is going to be miserable forever. What’s the truth? Everything changes. Life is about change. Sometimes it’s slow, like a river eroding a mountain; sometimes it’s as fast as the sun coming out from behind a cloud. You weren’t born depressed, so you know that your mood has changed in the past. And the fact that you have really bad days means that some days are marginally less bad. Everything changes and that includes our moods.
3. It’s All Your Fault. This is a classic depression lie. Not only are we feeling miserable, we should also feel guilty. What’s the truth? People become depressed for all sorts of reasons. Sometimes it’s in response to loss, or because the world seems overwhelming. Sometimes it’s because the chemical in our brains are out of balance. Maybe we did something which led to our current low mood. Maybe we made a bad choice and we’re now stuck in a cycle of misery and guilt. But ‘cause’ isn’t the same as ‘fault’ even if we caused our situation – and most things in life have more than one simple cause – that doesn’t mean our depression is our fault. Depression would love to blame us, because then we won’t challenge it. Don’t fall this lie.
4. You’re Not Really Depressed. You’re just lazy. This is a lie that enables depression to take over our lives. Why would you seek any help if your not really depressed? Depression wants us to believe that our problem is just a character flaw, and not an illness. What’s the truth? Having no motivation is not the same as being lazy. Having no hope for the future is not the same as being lazy. Even if we’re normally someone who lives the easy life, that doesn’t make it okay for us to feel unhappy every day.
5. You Need To Be Depressed Sometimes. This lie is phrased as “you’ve been depressed for so long that’s you have no other identity.”That’s a gross misrepresentation of the idea that depression is a coping mechanism. What’s the truth? Sometimes it’s helpful to understand depression as a way of coping with overwhelming circumstances. But thats not the same as “needing depression” if we have an infection our body might give us a fever, the high temperature helps to kill of the infection. But we wouldn’t deliberately give ourselves a fever Just in case we caught an infection. And we wouldn’t have been depressed for so long that it’s now our only available identity. it’s ust another version of the things never change lie. We won’t always feel this way and we certainly don’t need to feel this way.
It can be difficult to challenge negative thoughts when we’re suffering from depression. When we are depressed it’s hard to believe that anything could possibly beep. If feels like everything is hopeless, and that therapy will probably be a waste of time. One of the most insidious and destructive aspects of depression is that it tricks people into beliefs test there is no hope and no help.
I suffered with depression most of my life. One thing I have learned is that talking about it helps and that challenging it helps.
If you suffer with depression here’s what I’ve learned over the years, set your alarm clock every morning, even when you have nothing to do get up that same time each day. Shower, get dressed and have a healthy breakfast, get out of the house/apartment and do something. And spend at least 30 minutes in the sun each day.
When a therapist suggested this to me, my first thought was that “He’s crazy,” but to my surprise it actually helped.