Finding Your Direction

Just about everyone on earth will feel lost and directionless at some point in their lives.

They might wake up to the realization that they’re just maintaining the status quo rather than actually living.

More people simply go through the motions they’re accustomed to, emotionally checked out so they don’t have to face the fact that they’re miserable in their current circumstances.

Others are fully aware that they, need/want to do something different, but they don’t know what. There are so many options out there, so many paths to take, that they end up feeling overwhelmed and directionless.

Here are 8 Steps that can help you find direction in your life.

1. Ask yourself some important questions.

On a sheet of paper write down, What would I do with my life if money, time, and resources were no object?

– What would you for work,/ a career path?

– Where would you live?

– What would you do with your time?

– How would you dress?

– Would you look different than you do now?

– What would a perfect dat by like for you?

– What kind of partner would you have?

– Which hobbies/pursuits would you enjoy?

Be extremely detailed about all of these answers, and take as much time with them as you like.

Once you’ve done that, flip to another fresh sheet of paper and write down all the things in your life right now that make you feel happy and fulfilled.

After you’ve written those out, flip to another sheet of paper. Here write down all the things in your life right now that make you frustrated, unhappy, and resentful. Be detailed about all of these listed items as well. Writing down how each one of them make you feel, both right now and when you’re experiencing them.

The purpose of these lists is to figure out which aspects of life you’d like to change, which you’d like to keep, and which may or may not fit your ideal life depending on how your journey unfolds.

The idea us that finding direction in your like really means understand how to get from your life today to your preferred life in the future. It’s about knowing what need to change and then working out how to make those changes.

2. Be honest with yourself.

Once you’ve determined the changes that you want to make, be honest as whether you are, in fact, prepared to make those changes.

You may be in the situation where you are paralyzed because you feel trapped in a job you hate, working 80 hours a week for a family you resent and a spouse you haven’t wanted to be around for years.

Whether you’ve written it down on paper or do you just know deep down, you don’t want to be in this situation anymore.

But are you going to do what needs to be done to remove yourself from this misery?

Are you prepared to potentially hurt and disappoint other people in order to live a life that’s true to your own needs, wants, and dreams?

Listen, we know why it’s not always as simple as an Internet article makes it out to be. If you’re not ready to make massive changes right now, you can still find a direction as far as pursuing some happiness. You can still make some small changes to move closer to your ideal life, even if it remained out of reach for the time being.

You might be ready to make big changes in the near future or even in the distant future obviously it’s preferable to make them sooner rather than later, but perhaps making small changes now will be the catalyst to drive you to making on big changes later.

And if you can’t make big changes now, it’s a good idea to work on identifying various reports and coping mechanisms you will need to tolerate your situation until you can.

Alternatively, you’ve reached the point where you’re ready to find full, liberating direction that is free from the constraints of the status quo, you need to create a plan.

3. Create a plan of action.

You may have some crossovers in those lists you wrote earlier. For example, if Your dream of a perfect day would include some of your current daily activities, what time spent with your current partner, and those are some of the building blocks for the new life you’re aiming for.

In contrast, there’s absolutely nothing wrong on your list of current love that you would take with you on your life dream, that’s a slate you’ll need to clear.

Determine a list of priorities are to things you need/want to change. List these in order of importance, going from what upsets and hurt you the most right now, to what you can tolerate a little while longer.

For instance, if your relationship is excruciating but your job is only tedious, you know what needs to be sorted out immediately.

Alternatively, if your job is driving you to a suicidal idolization but you’re OK living in your current neighborhood a while longer, then it’s your job that should be top priority.

What actions can you take immediately?

If you like your career path but you hate your current work circumstances, update your résumé as soon as you finish reading this article. They start looking for a new job, possibly with the help of a recruiter.

Alternatively, if you’ve despised this career path or sometime and want to do something completely different, look into what would be involved to pursue this new dream.

Sure, you might feel a great deal of trepidation at starting some think new, especially if you’ve been working where you have for some time. After all, changing careers may involve a lot of financial security or prestige. You may have a senior position where you are, and the income you’re getting now may allow for a certain level of comfort, but what good are those if you cry in the bathroom every night?

Comfort zones or where dreams go to die.

4. Determine what you love

Now, one reason why some people have difficulty finding new direction in life is that they forgotten (or ever really realized) what it is they love they love the most.

You might fall into certain careers because they were good at doing something, But doesn’t mean you’ll enjoy it.

So, what do you love to do?

Do you have a particular hobby or personal pursuit that brings you a great deal of joy? Why do you love that so much? Would you keep loving it if you did it full-time? Is it possible to support yourself (and those who are dependent on you) if you were to pursue this as a career?

Direction to pull from passion and dedication. when you do what you love, you have a strong sense of purpose and fulfillment.

Even if you’re not making as much money as you might have before, that’s absolutely okay. Much emphasis is placed on financial wealth these days that people forget that emotional and spiritual fulfillment are even important.

Again, life is not as simple as this article or anything else you might read makes out – I get that. I’m not saying that everyone can do what they love as a career because that’s just not realistic.

But some people find working an unfulfilling job more soul- destroying than others. And if you have found your way to this article, you may be one of those people.

So, if you there is any way that you could make a living from something you actually enjoy, you should put all the effort you possibly can into making that a reality.

5. Stop doing things that you hate

How much anxiety and depression do you experience because you’re doing things that you can’t stand?

What would your state of mind do you like if you were engrossed with what you’d rather be doing instead?

You might feel trapped right now because you’re doing the thing you despise in order to keep yourself )and probably your family) housed fed. If this is the case, talk to your partner/family members openly honesty about how you were feeling. There’s no shame in asking for help to set yourself free from a excruciating situation.

For example, if you want to pursue a new career, you may have to spend some time and money getting educated in this new path. Do some research find out what grants and programs are available for a second career education. you may be eligible for financial assistance- not just for your education, but for your expenses while you’re being re-trained.

Your social circle (family, friends, spiritual community) May be able to assist as well. You’d step up to help those around get out of a situation that was hurting them right? Well, there’s a good chance that your loved ones would be delighted to help you in turn.

Before work, are there other things in your life you need to keep you even bother to bring you the opposite of enjoyment? Are their friends you no longer enjoy spending time with? Or other activities that you would be for you if you didn’t have to?You should have these on the list you made earlier.

How can you remove the thing from your life? What would it take?

6. Determine which approach works best for you

Are you kind of person who works best with an attainable goals and structure? Or do you prefer a more free-form approach?

Similarly, do you like to work on a number of different projects at once? Or do you like to tackle things one at a time?

There’s no one-size-fits-all approach for finding and pursuing a new direction. Instead each person needs to sort out what will keep them encouraged and motivated as they move forward.

Some people might thrive with smart goal why others are more spontaneous with changes,

If you’re cool with quitting your job, packing your stuff, and moving across the country, then go for it! Alternatively, if you’re more comfortable creating attainable milestones and a work back calendar and aim for that instead.

7. Mix up big and small changes

While you’re working on some of the big issues in your life, take care of that usually attainable achievable ones too.

These provide near instant gratification, that would encourage you as you move forward with more drastic changes.

For example, let’s say that two of the things on your path of changes are getting in shape , and changing your home decor. The former will take time for real time to happen, but keep me in logbook where you note your progress on a daily, weekly, and monthly basis.

Well that’s taking time to pursue, you can choose from a room in your house you change. Let’s say your bedroom is a top priority. Set aside a weekend to paint it, get yourself some new bedding, maybe some plants. Discard were no longer suits you, rearrange the furniture, and maybe disuse some new scents in there.

That will create a massive difference, and will reinforce the fact that you are in the process of changing all the other aspects you’ve written down as well.

8. Be brave

Countless people hold back from pursuing the things they actually love because they’re afraid of risking or potentially losing what they have.

They’ll stay in their careers, relationships, even city they despise for much longer than they should, simply because they are afraid of changing their circumstances that might result in greater pain they are experiencing.

That being said, to live is to risk. There can’t be any fulfillment or reward if there isn’t some decree of things not working out as you like. Of course, the only way to ensure a life of disappointment and regret if you stay stagnant where you are.

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